Members Spike Li Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 Put yourself in his shoes - you win an auction on ebay, pay the guy, then he says "Actually Im gonna keep it. I didnt want to sell it in the first place anyway"...I guess if you reaaaally want it back, tell him that its still his but offer to buy it back off him. Dont guilt trip him into letting you keep it, you sold it so technically he owns it now. Sure you made a mistake, we all do, but that doesnt mean we dont have to take responsibility for them... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members rog951 Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 Don't be a bitch. Send the man his guitar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members twofoolsaminute Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 You dropped it and now it's "broken". You must refund his money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ILikeGuitar Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 A guitars just a guitar. Piece of wood and wires. You can get another one later. Go through with the deal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members kuyaglen Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 Ship the god damned guitar and consider it a hard lessoned learned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Guitarist970 Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 You made a commitment to selling the guitar when you listed it on ebay and I feel it is your duty to live up to that commitment. However it doesn't hurt to contact the buyer and explain your situation to him, ask him if he's having any feelings of buyer's remorse and offer to refund his money in full + paypal fees. Who knows, if the guitar was only a few hundred dollars chances of it being a rare instrument are pretty rare so he'll probably have another shot at one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mikesr1963 Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 Send the guitar or you may not be able to make a sale again when you really need the cash. The guitar is a thing and there will always be another. Besides, guitars are like hookers, you pimp them out for a while during your performances and then sell them off before they get to the point where they can't turn a trick. You'll always have the memories and later, a new HO you can break in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members bigspan Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 Selling something on ebay is a contract. Just as he agreed to buy your guitar by bidding, you agreed to sell it by listing it. I can't believe this is even a question and I am even more astounded that anyone is proposing that you not follow through. Send the guy his guitar he bought and paid for, and only list items you want to sell- PERIOD. This - total agreement. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members n9ne Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 It couldn't hurt to e-mail the guy and tell him you're ready to ship it out....but you've had a change of heart, and would prefer to keep it and refund his money. Offer a sentimental appeal to his own love for the instrument, and hopefully he'll be a soft touch. Another option: if it means that much to you, you could always offer to refund him more than the selling price. If it sold for 450, offer to give him 475, and an apology for wasting his time. But at the same time......if the buyer insists that you hold up your end of the bargain, be prepared to do so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vikingrat Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 You have 8. This is just one! Do you think the mom that has 34 kids stops because she {censored}ted the 35th one out and gets depressed ?? Hell no! Soon you will be back to 46 guitars and not having to pay drunk driving tickets anymore! It's looking up buddy! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members CoqBelliqueux Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 You have 8. This is just one! Do you think the mom that has 34 kids stops because she {censored}ted the 35th one out and gets depressed ?? Hell no! Soon you will be back to 46 guitars and not having to pay drunk driving tickets anymore! It's looking up buddy!Les osties de pondeuses!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members flummox Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 Of course, you are right. I don't know what I was thinking. {censored} the eBay rules, sellers should do whatever they want with their items after the auction ends. I'm not sure which part of my post you are attempting to sarcastically agree with. Ebay has a procedure for this situation too, providing both parties agree to it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tlbonehead Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 +1 The truest indicator of one's character is how he acts when there are no consequences. perfect! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tlbonehead Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 You dropped it and now it's "broken". You must refund his money.very sad advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tlbonehead Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 Nope. Most people are pretty understanding if you explain the situation and return their money ASAP. Everyone who does a lot of business on ebay has to back out of an auction sooner or later. I've done over 500 auctions and I've had to do it twice - the last time was for a piece of outboard I couldn't locate the @#$% wall-wart for. It happens, and people have done it to me, too. The only time I ever neg anyone is then they cost me time or money, neither of which is at stake here. It's just business. Its happened to me twice, both times the sellers got a negative, and both times they were actually surprised. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members flummox Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 The problem is that you cannot state with certainty that there was only a "mild inconvenience" to the other party, as we have not heard his side of the story. How do we know that he has not missed out on something else after committing to this deal? Or that he has not earmarked the net of any funds he'd set aside for such a transaction?I realize I'm just considering remote possibilities, but if any such is true then I'd hate to be the would-be buyer in this situation. And while you are well within your right to dismiss "honor" and "manhood" you should recognize that there are some who still value such, and (if they are anything at all as I am) are saddened and disheartened by the fact that so many here are so comfortable with deceit and dishonesty ... I wasn't dismissing "Honor" and "Manhood". I was suggesting that we not cheapen those ideals by applying them to petty situations in a sanctimonious and self-serving way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tlbonehead Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 It sounds like you're going to do the right thing. To all the people who said to back out, you're why ebay sucks now.that is exactly right. Ebay only works well when there is trust, and trust that is earned. Not by working the loopholes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vikingrat Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 I wasn't dismissing "Honor" and "Manhood". I was suggesting that we not cheapen those ideals by applying them to petty situations in a sanctimonious and self-serving way. People died for us to be able to do this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members megawzrd Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 The only responses I have seen and agree with is to man up and send the guitar. Consider it a lesson learned...and move on. ...in other words: don't bitch out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members knotty Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 I wasn't dismissing "Honor" and "Manhood". I was suggesting that we not cheapen those ideals by applying them to petty situations in a sanctimonious and self-serving way.No - what you want to do is pick and choose when you apply those criteria.(in a sanctimonious and self serving way) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members knotty Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 Could the OP and everyone else who says he should renage with an excuse or otherwise please post their e-bay name.Just so we know for the future! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members onelife Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 Personally, I like the concept mentioned before that it is now the buyer's guitar and, because of your change of heart, you would like to have the opportunity to buy it back. In doing this, you give the buyer complete control of the situation and show some respect. If the buyer feels inconvenienced but is willing to give the guitar back for a price, then you can consider that your lesson. If it were the other way around, you would not be cursing the seller for backing out but you would be able to decide for yourself how it would turn out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members harold heckuba Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 ^^^^ Good Advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members D Carroll Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 If it is a guitar still in production, {censored} it, send him the guitar. If it's a unique guitar, send it to him, and tell him if he ever wants to sell it, you will buy it back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members strtdv Posted July 28, 2010 Members Share Posted July 28, 2010 When you sell something on ebay you have entered into a contract. While there may very little ebay can do if you don't go through with it, IMO it doesn't say much about your personal character if you bail. You would certainly deserve any negative feedback you got. I think the idea of contacting the buyer, explaining the situation, and offering to buy it back is a good one. If nothing else, I would be impressed by your honesty if I was the buyer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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