I'm so upset right now! My divorce is gonna get ugly.

[DeadNight Warrior]

lol, when your argument fails, bag the poor kids gear very nice P.S I live elsewhere so i can't actually meet you. I'd like to but just for a laff;) P.S.S Someone said something about beer, and me being a teenager. teens go right up to 19, and in Australia the drinking age is 18, and i drink a fair bit, and not somepiece a {censored} budweiser, i drink real mans beer, coopers, Guiness, etc. Anyone else. i got 8minutes before i go to work

Think you're a big man coz you drink a lot huh? Here's a bit of news for you... there's nothing cool about that at all. Nor is there anything cool about your bull{censored} attitude.

So you're too far away to meet any of the other guys... how about a "fellow" Aussie then huh? You're slingin' {censored} at the wrong people at the wrong time. If this is all you have to contribute to this thread and this forum, kindly {censored} off.

[LowPhreak]

Thankfully, the totally one-siding siding with mothers getting custody is waning. ... I often think you can get the best treatment if you can get a reference to a lawyer from a friend. ...

...and then he went to court, and reality hit him right square in the nuts.

Some of you guys must be living in Disneyland.

[loiking]

Think you're a big man coz you drink a lot huh? Here's a bit of news for you... there's nothing cool about that at all. Nor is there anything cool about your bull{censored} attitude. So you're too far away to meet any of the other guys... how about a "fellow" Aussie then huh? You're slingin' {censored} at the wrong people at the wrong time. If this is all you have to contribute to this thread and this forum, kindly {censored} off.

no actually, i think the comment that provoked my comment, was one that went along the lines of , he'll kick you arse with a beer in his hand you dumb kid. so how about reading a litle deeper before sticking your nose in. {censored}

[-=Diz-Tortion=-]

It depends if he was waring frilly underwear and he should be telling it to peoples face, not some forum thats available to a whole bunch of disgruntled teenager like myself. P.s do i get a spork?

Alot of people here turn to the forum for advice, so stfu

[Neilrocks25]

TU BE sorry to hear about your situation, I know if I ever devorced from my wife I would have one hell of a battle for my kid on my hands. And I know my wife would play dirty.
There is no garentee that she would be allowed in the AF. She might even have said it to upset you.
If she is there are plenty of places she could be posted (europe Asia) my recomendation speak to a laywer and get some legal advice.

Unfortantly in this country too most Judges belive kids belong with their mother.

Gambatte (good luck/go for it and win)

[clay_finley]

So the soon to be ex-wife calls me up and seems one of her friends has convinced her to join the Air Force. That's all good that she wants to better herself, but here's where the problem arrives. See, we were originally gonna do a joint custody of my kids and both live here in SA. But now, if she joins they could send her ANYWHERE and she says SHE wants custody which would basically make me have to follow her wherever she has to go for Uncle Sam if I want to see my kids. This totally pisses me off because I have been the best parent I can be considering the circumstances and she has put little effort into being one for the past 6 months. Now, with a "contested" divorce here in Texas, she could win custody of our kids and I'd be a {censored}ing nomad if I want to be part of their lives. This was NOT the original plan for the divorce and she has gone and thrown a {censored}ing monkey wrench in the godamn spokes. I can't be without my kids. I won't do it. I WILL NOT be a weekend dad (or worse yet a once or twice a year dad). I'm so {censored}ing pissed right now I don't know whether to punch something or just breakdown and have a good cry. {censored}!!!!

#1 - she hasn't joined yet
#2 - the call was mostly to get a reaction from you and bum you out

Texas family court cases generally don't end up going before the judge. The backlog is long, so a final hearing will be a year or more away. Also, this prompt you to finally agree on something at some point and just get it over with. The lawyers try to milk you for as much as they can during this process.

Holdout and don't agree until you get a domicile restriction. I got one which said my ex couldn't move out of a 40 mile radius unless we both agreed. Otherwise, wait for the final hearing and present your story to the judge. It helps to write up the story so you can condense it to the most important facts.

Two words: DOMICILE RESTRICTION

PS: In Texas, the moms don't always get the kids (that trend has been slowly reversing). My kids lived with me for several years while they were growing up (while their mom moved around).

[Big Hair]

It's pretty unfair the way divorce courts nearly always award custody to the monther, regardless of situation

[tdr]

Can't read the whole thread right now and I don't want to read all that low life troll posts. Let me just say I have no idea what you are going through, but we all know how proud you are of your kids, so I wish you all the strength you need to get through {censored} like this. I hope that justice will be served.

[Burn]

this is an amp forum.

It is what it is. You don't like it, I assume, but fret not. You'll be gone soon.

[TU BE]

This is similar to what I was going to say after reading your initial post. But...she could try to pull some dirt on you to win custody. Careful what you post on the internet bro, those could be used against you...especially that myspace {censored}. I'm speaking from experience in what happened in my divorce. My Ex got our daughter and lives in NM, while I have my life in AZ. Last time I saw my oldest daughter was at July 4th holiday...it really sucks because she's only 7 years old and I've already been without her for 3 years. I see her about 3-4 times a year and she cries for me every {censored}in' time I have to say Goodbye to her. Some of the stuff you post makes me feel for you bro...I've been there. Good luck to you, and much mojo sent!

Funny you mention that, when she was leaving to SA every weekend from Fort Worth to party, she left her myspace account logged in and I got about 6 pages worth (printed out) of her talking about how much she was partying and saying things like, "yeah, I'm married but free of the spoils of a ball and chain".

So yeah, I know all about that.

[TU BE]

how old is she?

She's 27 and says she needs to join before she turns 28 in January, so she's all "quick fast and in a hurry" to do this.

[Gaindrain]

TUBE, I wouldn't give up just yet. It can't be that easy for her to pull this off. She chose for joint custody. It seems to me that a job in the present day air-force will almost certainly disrupt that custody.

Of course, I'm not an expert on the American judicial system, but any respectful judge will see that a verdict in favor of her would be unfavorable to you and disruptive with regard to your children's stability, upbringing and education. Certainly in these times.

I certainly don't think this would be a lost cause for you.

@loiking:
1. Being a Belgian, I agree with you on Stella. Then again, Coopers (or any of those Australian chemicals you dare to call beer) is some of the vilest {censored} you can drink.
2. If you were my kid, I'd be a junkie too.
3. Welcome to my ignore list. Judging from the posts in this topic, you're not going to be left with any people to troll against.

[17 Tubes]

A teenager? {censored} you, you don't know {censored} about life. Talk to me when you lived a while and actually experienced some things in life. Dickhead.

I know I'm late, but I don;t know why you gave him the time of day. Just iognor eit. You got plenty else to worry about...just a loser pl;aying with ya....and he got what he wanted.



You also have plenty of people that extend their sincere concern, unfortunately there's nothing we can do. Hope you follow the advice of consulting a lawyer, damn them to hell.


I also wonder when she suddenly turned into this bitch. Was it something you missed?


Take care man and fight for the best thing for your kids

[cobrahead1030]

it's really {censored}ty that she'd put your kids thru that

[Guitarted]

No {censored}. That sucks. I feel for you man.

When I got divorced, my ex-wife and I lived 15 minutes from each other. We had joint custody of our daughter. I saw my daughter every other day. Then 2 months after the divorce she tells me she is moving 2 1/2 hours away. My lawyer and I tell her she can't as my visitation shcedule of every other day is written in the divorce decree. She would be breaking a court order if she moved that far away. Her lawyer tells her it's okay and she moves anyway. So a few months later, we finally get back to court where I am hoping the court will hit her over the head and hold her accountable for breaking the court order and {censored}ing me out of seeing my daughter except for every other weekend, but no she gets to stay where she is and gets no repercutions for her actions and they change my visitation to every other weekend. Women get away with everything and are held accountable for nothing. If I would have pulled that {censored}, they would have locked me in jail. The court system is biased, no matter what they say. So I said {censored} it, and moved to where my daughter is. Now I see her every other day again. She is here right now waiting for me to take her to school.

[Knottyhed]

So the soon to be ex-wife calls me up and seems one of her friends has convinced her to join the Air Force. That's all good that she wants to better herself, but here's where the problem arrives. See, we were originally gonna do a joint custody of my kids and both live here in SA. But now, if she joins they could send her ANYWHERE and she says SHE wants custody which would basically make me have to follow her wherever she has to go for Uncle Sam if I want to see my kids. This totally pisses me off because I have been the best parent I can be considering the circumstances and she has put little effort into being one for the past 6 months. Now, with a "contested" divorce here in Texas, she could win custody of our kids and I'd be a {censored}ing nomad if I want to be part of their lives. This was NOT the original plan for the divorce and she has gone and thrown a {censored}ing monkey wrench in the godamn spokes. I can't be without my kids. I won't do it. I WILL NOT be a weekend dad (or worse yet a once or twice a year dad). I'm so {censored}ing pissed right now I don't know whether to punch something or just breakdown and have a good cry. {censored}!!!!

That's pure selfishness, I shouldn't wonder if the possibility of screwing you over on the kids is part of why she wants to join?

Talk to a lawyer and see how this effects things. Mothers are usually favoured, but in this case - well as an active duty service person she won't be able to offer a stable background.

a.) There's a chance she will be away for months on active service in a foreign country.
b.) If she's moving all over the country it is not good for the kids, who will have to constantly change school, make new friends etc. It has been proven that such nomadic lifestyle does not help children achieve good grades... find some of that research to throw up in court.
c.) It will no doubt involve some shift work.

So this *could* work in your favour. I should imagine that if you can offer a stable income, a stable home and are intending to stay put so your kids can stay in the same school, have the same friends etc. then it'll all count in your favour other somebody that'll be working shifts, travelling all over the country etc.

If you ask me, chances are that your wife shoots herself in the foot if she tries that one and you will stand a much better chance of getting full custody.

[TU BE]

The thing that pisses me off the most is that the fate of my relationship with my kids is gonna be up to two bickering, snaked tongue lawyers and possibly even a judge later on. At first, it was gonna be joint custody and now it has turned into this.

[LithiumZero]

Sorry to hear that. Mojo sent.

[rushtallica]

Think you're a big man coz you drink a lot huh? Here's a bit of news for you... there's nothing cool about that at all. Nor is there anything cool about your bull{censored} attitude. So you're too far away to meet any of the other guys... how about a "fellow" Aussie then huh? You're slingin' {censored} at the wrong people at the wrong time. If this is all you have to contribute to this thread and this forum, kindly {censored} off.

+ 1. I don't know what's up with some people lately. But well said.

[Knottyhed]

no actually, i think the comment that provoked my comment, was one that went along the lines of , he'll kick you arse with a beer in his hand you dumb kid. so how about reading a litle deeper before sticking your nose in. {censored}

Seriously guys, he's obviously some ass-wipe with a chip on his shoulder cos his parents don't understand him, he can't get laid and everyone at school thought he was a asshole.

Deep down he hates himself and coming on this forum and acting like a douche is his way of dealing with it. Ignore him and he'll eventually go back to wanking over gay porn or whatever it is he does when he's not trying to make himself feel important on internet forums.

[Syn Harvest]

dude this sucks and i hope it works out for you. Find a good lawyer friend then he will work for you favor and probably not gut you for money.

Also the court is gonna give the kids to whoever has the most stable lifestyle. When my mom and dad got divorced oh say 15 years ago. Me and my younger brothers all went to my dad until my mom got her life stable so argue you have a more stable life and you should be good because going to the Airforce is far from stable.

Best of luck to you man i hope it works out keep us updated

[Mrmot]

Seriously guys, he's obviously some ass-wipe with a chip on his shoulder cos his parents don't understand him, he can't get laid and everyone at school thought he was a asshole. Deep down he hates himself and coming on this forum and acting like a douche is his way of dealing with it. Ignore him and he'll eventually go back to wanking over gay porn or whatever it is he does when he's not trying to make himself feel important on internet forums.

but he drinks, "real", "manly" beers... what a dip{censored} cocksucker

[Knottyhed]

The thing that pisses me off the most is that the fate of my relationship with my kids is gonna be up to two bickering, snaked tongue lawyers and possibly even a judge later on. At first, it was gonna be joint custody and now it has turned into this.

Yeh that sucks. If there's no talking her out of it (doesn't sound like there is) then you're just going to have to get off the ropes and start fighting. Keep yourself calm and dignified, talk to your lawyer about the options and how the obvious instability she will cause for the kids will effect her case. There's no point in getting angry or stewing over it, what she does is beyond your control. Just do what you can to protect your interests and those of your kids.

[Knottyhed]

but he drinks, "real", "manly" beers...

LOL - oh well I take it all back then, he's way cool and deserves our respect!!

[Mrmot]

TU BE, sorry to hear about that, I hope everything turns out ok for you. I don't understand how could the court give custody to a single parent who's about to join the air force? Wouldn't the air force training and whatever occupy a lot of her time, make her have to travel a lot and stuff? That's NOT a thing for a single parent!