Members Funkytone Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 Why is this even a question?The deal is done and the guitars are no longer his. Doesn't matter if it has been 3 weeks or 3 minutes, once the deal is done, it is done.If you want to sell them back to him, that is certainly your prerogative to do so, but you owe him nothing. This. Karma, Shmarma, it's Craigslist for krissake! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members poolshark Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 Another alternate solution: Call him back, let him know you're using and enjoying the guitars, but that you'll call him if and when you ever decide to sell. If he has any class, he could accept your decision or, potentially, offer you a premium to buy them back. Either way, you retain good social standing by calling him back and being a straight shooter about the situation. Karma might not be real, but people do talk, and that's real enough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members toneforhire Posted August 21, 2012 Author Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 I talked a bit more with him...he is definitely having finance problems...barely making the mortgage, no real job...he has wife and 4 kids...all the kids are in private school... I told him I could do 2 things...sell the guitars back to him NOW, for the exact amount I bought them...or I promised to sell them back when he is back on his feet...the dude started crying and loved the idea of buying them back once he is back to fulltime work...he is laid off but expected to be called back in the fall... I felt REALLY good about this...I will take great care of them, and he will get them back set up and with new strings LOL... I also called a few buds to see if they could use a carpenter/builder tradesman, maybe turn this guy onto a job... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Members BryanMichael Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 I talked a bit more with him...he is definitely having finance problems...barely making the mortgage, no real job...he has wife and 4 kids...all the kids are in private school...I told him I could do 2 things...sell the guitars back to him NOW, for the exact amount I bought them...or I promised to sell them back when he is back on his feet...the dude started crying and loved the idea of buying them back once he is back to fulltime work...he is laid off but expected to be called back in the fall...I felt REALLY good about this...I will take great care of them, and he will get them back set up and with new strings LOL...I also called a few buds to see if they could use a carpenter/builder tradesman, maybe turn this guy onto a job... You are a class act, my friend. Regardless of what happens, and whether or not you "get anything" for your actions ( be it Karma, or whatever)-your true kindness (after all, you owed him NOTHING) is noble. Taking on a little of someone else's burden for a moment, lightening their load -is a rare thing. Thank you for doing that. Good on'ya boyo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Ralph onion Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 1019 at this 1014. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members PrawnHeed Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 I talked a bit more with him...he is definitely having finance problems...barely making the mortgage, no real job...he has wife and 4 kids...all the kids are in private school... I told him I could do 2 things...sell the guitars back to him NOW, for the exact amount I bought them...or I promised to sell them back when he is back on his feet...the dude started crying and loved the idea of buying them back once he is back to fulltime work...he is laid off but expected to be called back in the fall... I felt REALLY good about this...I will take great care of them, and he will get them back set up and with new strings LOL... I also called a few buds to see if they could use a carpenter/builder tradesman, maybe turn this guy onto a job... Well done! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members billythegoat Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 And you came here for advice??? Seems like you have a level head on your shoulders, very very well handled! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vcnyls Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 BRAVO! You handled that perfectly IMO! :thu: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members foppy Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 You are a saint. I talked a bit more with him...he is definitely having finance problems...barely making the mortgage, no real job...he has wife and 4 kids...all the kids are in private school...I told him I could do 2 things...sell the guitars back to him NOW, for the exact amount I bought them...or I promised to sell them back when he is back on his feet...the dude started crying and loved the idea of buying them back once he is back to fulltime work...he is laid off but expected to be called back in the fall...I felt REALLY good about this...I will take great care of them, and he will get them back set up and with new strings LOL...I also called a few buds to see if they could use a carpenter/builder tradesman, maybe turn this guy onto a job... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members craigny Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 Thats a really nice thing to do man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members gdsmithtx Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 Congrats on being a real mensch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Spike Li Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 Congrats on being a real mensch.an uber mensch!I have to applaud the OP for being generally an awesome human being, but I also cant help but wondering- if this guy is in so much financial trouble then why the hell is he trying to buy his guitars back?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members -=Pennywise=- Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 1. Keep them, and block his phone number or: 2. Make it worth your while to sell them back Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members noisebloom Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 I talked a bit more with him...he is definitely having finance problems...barely making the mortgage, no real job...he has wife and 4 kids...all the kids are in private school...I told him I could do 2 things...sell the guitars back to him NOW, for the exact amount I bought them...or I promised to sell them back when he is back on his feet...the dude started crying and loved the idea of buying them back once he is back to fulltime work...he is laid off but expected to be called back in the fall...I felt REALLY good about this...I will take great care of them, and he will get them back set up and with new strings LOL...I also called a few buds to see if they could use a carpenter/builder tradesman, maybe turn this guy onto a job... Quoted for awesomeness. That was huge of you, sir. Respect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Fireproof Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 I talked a bit more with him...he is definitely having finance problems...barely making the mortgage, no real job...he has wife and 4 kids...all the kids are in private school...I told him I could do 2 things...sell the guitars back to him NOW, for the exact amount I bought them...or I promised to sell them back when he is back on his feet...the dude started crying and loved the idea of buying them back once he is back to fulltime work...he is laid off but expected to be called back in the fall...I felt REALLY good about this...I will take great care of them, and he will get them back set up and with new strings LOL...I also called a few buds to see if they could use a carpenter/builder tradesman, maybe turn this guy onto a job... Way to go man. Very kind and selfless of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Elias Graves Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 I talked a bit more with him...he is definitely having finance problems...barely making the mortgage, no real job...he has wife and 4 kids...all the kids are in private school...I told him I could do 2 things...sell the guitars back to him NOW, for the exact amount I bought them...or I promised to sell them back when he is back on his feet...the dude started crying and loved the idea of buying them back once he is back to fulltime work...he is laid off but expected to be called back in the fall...I felt REALLY good about this...I will take great care of them, and he will get them back set up and with new strings LOL...I also called a few buds to see if they could use a carpenter/builder tradesman, maybe turn this guy onto a job... You're a good man, Charlie Brown. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Fireproof Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 an uber mensch! I have to applaud the OP for being generally an awesome human being, but I also cant help but wondering- if this guy is in so much financial trouble then why the hell is he trying to buy his guitars back?? Probably a moment of seller's regret. Or rationalizing that surely he can get a job soon enough to pay the bills without having to sacrifice his guitars. Or maybe he found some temporary work that allowed him to cover his nut for another month, and wanted to try to get the guitars back before it was too late. Or maybe his financial troubles are leaving him so miserable these days that playing his guitars is his only temporary comfort. There's no telling... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frets99 Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 We get to make this trip once. Good on you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members fulcrumpoint Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 I talked a bit more with him...he is definitely having finance problems...barely making the mortgage, no real job...he has wife and 4 kids...all the kids are in private school...I told him I could do 2 things...sell the guitars back to him NOW, for the exact amount I bought them...or I promised to sell them back when he is back on his feet...the dude started crying and loved the idea of buying them back once he is back to fulltime work...he is laid off but expected to be called back in the fall...I felt REALLY good about this...I will take great care of them, and he will get them back set up and with new strings LOL...I also called a few buds to see if they could use a carpenter/builder tradesman, maybe turn this guy onto a job... Beyond respect. Its hard times for a lot of people and the class you have showed is what makes the hard times turn around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members fulcrumpoint Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 We get to make this trip once. Good on you. QFT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members toneforhire Posted August 21, 2012 Author Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 It really was a win/win...I get to jam on these guitars for probably 1-2 months, he buys them back...either at the same time or one at a time...no one really looses...its not like the money I gave him is loosing 20% interest LOL... I feel good about the outcome..although I probably wont gig with them anymore, dont want to risk theft or damage... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Danhedonia Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 I read some of the responses here and wonder how the posters might feel if someone else tried to exploit and/or take advantage of a painful situation in which they find themselves. Honestly, I hope you find some empathy to balance the manic self-interest. 30 years ago, I sold a custom bunk bed I'd had as a kid; it was Danish modern, the guy who built them was friends with my parents and went on to get a little recognition in that domain. They were worth about $1,200-$1,500, at the time a fair bit of cash for a bunk bed. I put out an ad, people came, etc. etc. etc. At the time I was in grad school, and actually having some issues with feeding myself because student loan money doesn't go far in Boston. A couple who 'collected' furniture came and offered me $1,450, which was the high offer, and I was close to selling it to them. Then this young guy shows up, nice guy, with his 3 kids and wife, all very formal and super nice. He was quiet but deeply appreciative of the craftsmanship. He then hauled out $480 in crumpled twenties and said "I have this to offer. I apologize it is not $500, but we needed to purchase gasoline on the way. I can write you a check for more." I told him the high offer, and he said "I understand. They're very nice beds." Him, wife and kids get back in ratty car, drive off. Later I called him and asked when he could pick them up - I would sell them to him for $480, no questions asked. "Why are you doing this?" he asked. I thought about what a nice man he was, how I thought he'd really appreciate the furniture in a way intended by the guy who built it, and that {censored}, bunkbeds are for kids, not {censored}ing collectors. Those kids should be building forts around that thing. "Psychic income," I told him. "Interesting!" he said. "I'm a rabbi ... I like this idea." Twenty years later, I do not miss the $1,000. But I know that his daughters loved those beds, and he and I occasionally saw each other in Boston and were friendly. It's two guitars. Tone, you are doing the right thing; there are things in life far more important than money, and I am happy for you that you have such a good understanding of this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members guitarcapo Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 If you want to keep them, tell him you flipped them on Ebay or whatever. That way he won't bug you over it thinking they are still with you. But I'd probably sell them back to the guy if they weren't my #1. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Angry Tele Posted August 21, 2012 Members Share Posted August 21, 2012 i would never gulit trip someone into selling stuff back to me I sold. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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