Members JRBain Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 This is your first mistake. Yes, this. My wedding was a wonderful occasion and I'm so glad it happened, but this is extremely true, however your parents and inlaws behave about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Inazone Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 We did everything humanly possible to avoid drama. My parents kept their noses out everything, getting involved only when we asked for assistance with a couple of things. My wife's mom, however, offered "suggestions" at every opportunity, and expensive suggestions at that. I knew that my wife didn't come from a well-off family by any stretch, and didn't expect them to pay for anything, but her mom kept coming up with high-priced ideas and then throwing a fit when nobody would listen. When all was said and done, it went off more or less without a hitch. Her mother continues to try meddling with everything we do, but so far we've blocked her from creating more than a little peripheral drama. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Ryan. Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 None of these sound like horror stories. You guys are boring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members THAT4301 Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 If you're paying for it they can just go {censored} themselves, seriously. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members big_cat Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 getting married Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members k tone Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 You're doing something wrong, Hux. Men shouldn't be involved in this. This. Don't forget this is HER day. Smile nicely and speak when spoken to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mhuxtable Posted October 17, 2011 Author Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 If you're paying for it they can just go {censored} themselves, seriously. THIS GUY! {censored}ing right. although its hard to look your mom or grandmother in the eye & say "go {censored} yourself". doesn't exactly promote long term relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members crohny Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 Tell them to but out or pay for it. Weddings never made sense to me. Fork out a {censored} ton of money and possibly split in 5 to 10 years. Best of luck to you and your lady. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mhuxtable Posted October 17, 2011 Author Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 Tell them to but out or pay for it. Weddings never made sense to me. Fork out a {censored} ton of money and possibly split in 5 to 10 years. Best of luck to you and your lady. and they have offered to pay for things...but it boils down to we don't want that many people at the reception. we want a small intimate affair. and yes the amount of money it costs for a wedding is {censored}ing insane...such a rip off. i swear as soon as you call a food place & say "we want to book catering" & you say the word wedding, the price doubles. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members King Rat Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 I've only been on the outside but i have seen what your going through!!! just focus on you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members V Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 It's times like this I wonder why gay people even want in on any of this. I 100% support their desire to be able to be in on this {censored}, but man. I'm straight and I want out of the whole deal. Live in sin with no kids ftw. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Hookandcanman Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 FWIW I'm getting married in 2 weeks and we decided to go to Jamaica for one of those all inclusive wedding / honeymoon things. We told our families when we would be there and if they wanted to go - book your reservations. We didn't understand why we should spend a {censored} ton of money on a day no one else would really remember but everyone wants to plan...The most difficult thing I've had to do to prepare was record our wedding music. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members goaway Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 one of my best friends got married in august. his wife's dad offered them $5k to elope. she didn't want to. they regretted that decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Ryan. Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 gfs dad offered 20k to elope :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members goaway Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 good god i would take that so fast. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Coach Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 Holy {censored}, 20k....that's dumble money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ChuckNorris1982 Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 Getting married really is quite stressful. The only way to do it is to ignore all outside opinions and plan the wedding you want to have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mlabbee Posted October 17, 2011 Members Share Posted October 17, 2011 My wife and I planned our wedding in Vegas. We got a "whale suite" (some wedding package they ran) and hosted the reception there - got married by Elvis. By doing it in Vegas, we got to run the show and everyone just showed up. If they wanted prime rib instead of canapes, they could walk down the street and get one at a $5 buffet :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members dap99 Posted October 18, 2011 Members Share Posted October 18, 2011 The year of planning was the worst year of my life. IMO, it is definitely NOT your day. Everybody had something to say and it seemed like nobody respected what we wanted (like no kids at the wedding). People tell me that the wedding/reception was one of those "great" weddings which is cool, but I felt like I was just hosting a big party and not really able to enjoy it. Seems to be the case for a lot of people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members CodeMonk Posted October 18, 2011 Members Share Posted October 18, 2011 My wife (now an ex) got married in the basement of the county courthouse. Ely Nevada, White Pine County.We did it on a whim one weekend. We had been living together for about 7 years prior to that though, and a wedding was amongst our plansRelatives tend to ruin weddings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members t-rey Posted October 18, 2011 Members Share Posted October 18, 2011 Actually first marriages are more around 33%. It's all the failed remarriages that move the percentage for total marriages ending in divorce up to 50%. No {censored}. I never thought about it, but that makes a lot of sense. We were in a similar situation - we paid for the vast majority of our wedding, but my mom and nana and my wife's mom all got out of hand and pretty demanding at various times. What I found worked for my side is that I had to very clearly tell them that they could {censored} off because they might not understand that everyone else is making similar demands and it gets stressful. After the fact we both said that we wish we would have eloped because the weeks leading up to the ceremony were especially stressful. BUT, the day of the ceremony and reception were perfect and we loved every minute of it. I doubt I would do it again given the choice, but I wouldn't trade that day for the world. Planning a wedding really, really sucks. Hard. Just deal with the stress in the best way you can and get dickish with your families if you have to (especially since you are paying for it all) and know that you guys will (most likely) enjoy the {censored} out of your day. On a side note, we just celebrated our 1st anniversary yesterday. Best of luck to you guys ....and me and crohny are gonna come crash your wedding Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members k tone Posted October 18, 2011 Members Share Posted October 18, 2011 got married by Elvis in Vegas, This was my dream wedding but she was having none of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mhuxtable Posted October 18, 2011 Author Members Share Posted October 18, 2011 HCFX dudes should totally crash my wedding. Would be epic HCFX history. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members neoflox Posted October 18, 2011 Members Share Posted October 18, 2011 So glad I called off my wedding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Pewtershmit Posted October 18, 2011 Members Share Posted October 18, 2011 HCFX dudes should totally crash my wedding. Would be epic HCFX history. Destination wedding: Vancouver Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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