CMS Author Craig Vecchione Posted July 1, 2005 CMS Author Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by THX1138 May 2nd 1998 So what qualifies you to dispute other's experiences as invalid? I've yet to know a woman who, when you peel away the layers, has no insecurity or jealously, and doesn't bring up {censored} from decades long forgotten if it suits her position. Seems I'm not alone in this observation. If your experience is different, that's great, but it doesn't make ours wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jbryant8159 Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Wow! It seem's like there are a lot of guys in here involved with some pretty insecure or unbalanced women. My wife's pretty great. Maybe it has to do with us both being 40+ these days and waiting until we were 32 and 27, respectively, until we got married. We both went thru the bull{censored} with others and got it out of our systems before we committed. The downside is that when I get close to retirement age I'll be paying for a college education for my son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members THX1138 Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Nothing qualifies me any more than it qualifies anyone else to say that women in general are as psychotic as has been suggested in this thread. I never said that women have "no" insecurities or jealousy issues, etc. We all do to some extent, its part of human nature. What I take exception to is the notion that they are all as greatly flawed as some comments here make them appear. I also never questioned the validity of anyone's relationships. We've all been in situations that we'd simply like to forget, myself included. What I question is how you can allow yourself to be so {censored}ed up and jaded by those experiences that you would have such a {censored}ty overall view of women. My basic point is that for every woman out there who is this maniacal, psychotic, emotionally trashed, pecker-slashing, schitzo... there is also a man who thinks he's some great prize. Bottom line - you and I aren't gonna see eye to eye, and thats cool. World would suck if we all shared the same opinion. 22 years and counting, you must be in the right situation for you. Me? Yeah, I'm very happy with my wife. I consider myself very lucky. Here's to many more for both of us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members BEAD Posted July 1, 2005 Author Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 My wife came home in a terrible mood tonight. She's still in a terrible mood. I doubt I'll tell her tonight. hm we'll see Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members KeroseneTrewthe Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by chunkathalon My wife came home in a terrible mood tonight.She's still in a terrible mood.I doubt I'll tell her tonight.hmwe'll see No, its the perfect time too. shell tell you exactly how she feels. Giving a stranger a number.... because seeing her two or three times doesnt really constitute as a real friend yet You have to see through your wifes eyes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MackemGeezer Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 I reckon it depends on your relationship with your wife and this woman. If this woman is a good friend or has some professional reason to keep in touch with you, then fine and dandy, if not then your wife would be well within her rights to throw a paddy.IMHO like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Perfessor Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 I'd tell her I wasn't comfortable with it. I wouldn't give out my number. Lotta goofballs out there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMS Author Craig Vecchione Posted July 1, 2005 CMS Author Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by chunkathalon My wife came home in a terrible mood tonight. She's still in a terrible mood. I doubt I'll tell her tonight. hm we'll see Actually that's something else I've learned from two decades of marriage.....if she's in a bad mood you may as well tell her. No sense in having to endure an additional bad mood later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members fretless Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 I hope some of the wise ladies of the forum will chime in with the female perspective , As for me dirty nasty sex comes to mind Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rippin' Robin Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 it's NOT telling her that'll do the damage. If it's not fishy, why would you hide it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members WildPotato Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Seems harmless enough, but avoid putting yourself in a situation where your judgement could be compromised. My girlfriend's pretty cool about stuff like that, as long as she's getting a piece of the action too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 78pbass Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 In my shoes, I'd have to have a good reason for giving a stranger my number. If there was somekind of friendship being developed, that's good enough. I'd then tell Pam and that'd be the end of it. She has male friends. In the same token, if she decided on a one-on-one lunch with a male friend (and vice-versa), I'd think there'd be awkwardness if it were someone I hadnt met, or if it was without reason (which means not "I just wanted to go out with him"). BUT, neither one of us would do that to each other. we've been together long enough to have confidence and trust in each other, as well as respect for each other as both people and partners in this relationship. I dont feel there ther is any reason it'd be a problem for either of us. BTW: I married her because she's the most secure and level female Ive ever met. She leveled me out. That is important guys - insecurity doesnt go away or fix itself, it manifests itself in other forms - find a girl without the hangups and youll be much happier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lug Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by Perfessor I'd tell her I wasn't comfortable with it. I wouldn't give out my number. Lotta goofballs out there. .......calls Perfessor....breaths heavily Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members james on bass Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Not a good idea man. I've been married 9 years, together for 13. That kind of {censored} wouldn't go over well. My wife trusts me, but your scenario seems too much like setting up a date to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rachel Sampson Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 I can tell you as a somewhat newly wed wife (5 years ago) that I would be a little jealous at first, but I would trust my husband and give him the benefit of the doubt. As long as he didn't seem to be too overly interested in her or spend too much time with her/talking to her, I wouldn't be worried. I think it's important for married people to be able to have platonic friendships with people of the opposite sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members james on bass Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by Rachel Sampson I can tell you as a somewhat newly wed wife (5 years ago) that I would be a little jealous at first, but I would trust my husband and give him the benefit of the doubt. As long as he didn't seem to be too overly interested in her or spend too much time with her/talking to her, I wouldn't be worried. I think it's important for married people to be able to have platonic friendships with people of the opposite sex. Can we be friends? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members greenshag Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 *looks at list of females numbers in cell phone* I feel for you guys with neurotic woman out there....my wife is cool with me having female friends, as she knows who is number 1... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members frunobulax Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 let's see. you gave a chick at school your phone number. i can't see how this is going to be interpreted as a good thing by mrs. chunkathalon. female friends are OK as long as the wife knows them and approves of them. otherwise they're usually seen as other women you want to spend time with and screw. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rippin' Robin Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 On the whole, women tend to be more afraid of you having or entering in on an emotional relationship or affair with another woman, rather than have you screwing another woman without any feeling at all. Some biology thingy going on there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMS Author Craig Vecchione Posted July 1, 2005 CMS Author Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by Rippin' Robin On the whole, women tend to be more afraid of you having or entering in on an emotional relationship or affair with another woman, rather than have you screwing another woman without any feeling at all.Some biology thingy going on there. I'd be willing to bet that a sex-only relationship would not go over any better than any other extraneous relationship. But indeed it's all based on biology for lack of a better term....in fact the previous accusations of making generalizations are ironic in that for the most part they really are true...guys are wired to spread their seed, so to speak, as far and as wide as possible. Women are wired to be selective and find the person best suited to provide a secure existence in which to make good babies and protect them. Anything that threatens this is going to be a problem, so jealousy isn't a "weakness", it's a vital instinct. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members KeroseneTrewthe Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by james on bass Not a good idea man.I've been married 9 years, together for 13. That kind of {censored} wouldn't go over well. My wife trusts me, but your scenario seems too much like setting up a date to me. Yeah, thats what Im thinking. Seriously, if my wife told me that she gave a guy her number that she only met 3 times. I would have to ask why? Really, why? Because she's a cool person? Because you'll end up discussing old times?....like the three times you hooked up in class? I dont know man.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bassius Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by greenshag *looks at list of females numbers in cell phone* I feel for you guys with neurotic woman out there....my wife is cool with me having female friends, as she knows who is number 1... +2i have plenty of female friends and students and my wife is cool-school about all of it...sometimes i will gig in another city and stay the night on the couch with a good female friend of mine....no big deal because my wiffer is level, secure, and confidenent and i'm not an adulterer. :D:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMS Author Craig Vecchione Posted July 1, 2005 CMS Author Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by Bassius +2 i have plenty of female friends and students and my wife is cool-school about all of it...sometimes i will gig in another city and stay the night on the couch with a good female friend of mine....no big deal because my wiffer is level, secure, and confidenent and i'm not an adulterer. :D:D Ah, but maybe she is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bassius Posted July 1, 2005 Members Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by Craigv Ah, but maybe she is. an adulterer?well...that's her choice....life is about choice right?as long as i get to watch...maybe it is girl-on-girl....nah she's a goodie-goodie :D:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMS Author Craig Vecchione Posted July 1, 2005 CMS Author Share Posted July 1, 2005 Originally posted by Bassius an adulterer? well...that's her choice....life is about choice right? as long as i get to watch...maybe it is girl-on-girl.... nah she's a goodie-goodie :D:D Trust me; it's the quiet goodie-goodies you have to watch out for!And forget getting to watch....no fun if you can't join in! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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