Members fretless Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 I forget all ex's names within a week so I'm good . Yeah , what if your lady called you by another mans name , I'll start with ' come here Fr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 2manband Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 See - so all you need to do is tell Heather that you're sick of her talking about Paul Harvey. You're her husband, not him. And that's the rest of the story. Great job gang....I feel like we've really accomplished something here today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rippin' Robin Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 D'oh. That's a terrible mistake. Hope you can get that stuff together again.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members misterhinkydink Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 See - so all you need to do is tell Heather that you're sick of her talking about Paul Harvey. You're her husband, not him. And that's the rest of the story. Bingo!!!!!!! :thu::thu: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members allan grossman Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 At least she's talking to me again, but she already told me that she doesn't want me in the same bed as her tonight. Then get a motel room for the night. If she doesn't want you in her bed, fine - but that doesn't mean you have to stay in the house. Sounds to me like she's trying to punish you. She's not your mom and you don't have to stand for that - if she doesn't want to share a bed, tell her that's her right, tell her you love her and that you'll see her in the morning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members guitargod0dmw Posted July 18, 2007 Author Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 See - so all you need to do is tell Heather that you're sick of her talking about Paul Harvey. You're her husband, not him. And that's the rest of the story. Great job gang....I feel like we've really accomplished something here today. +1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Ender_rpm Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 Then get a motel room for the night. If she doesn't want you in her bed, fine - but that doesn't mean you have to stay in the house.Sounds to me like she's trying to punish you. She's not your mom and you don't have to stand for that - if she doesn't want to share a bed, tell her that's her right, tell her you love her and that you'll see her in the morning. +1. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members B-Bottom Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 I've often wondered what he looked like. the guy has got to be 150 years old by now.......good day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 2manband Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 Didn't he die a few months ago? Or am I thinking of somebody else? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators ThudMaker Posted July 18, 2007 Moderators Share Posted July 18, 2007 Then get a motel room for the night. If she doesn't want you in her bed, fine - but that doesn't mean you have to stay in the house.Sounds to me like she's trying to punish you. She's not your mom and you don't have to stand for that - if she doesn't want to share a bed, tell her that's her right, tell her you love her and that you'll see her in the morning.Yep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Verlian Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 I hate mini vans! Somehow I read this as, "I hate MSI fans".. And then I was all, "Aww... v_v" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Kindness Posted July 18, 2007 Moderators Share Posted July 18, 2007 She is being childish. Don't be an enabler. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members guitargod0dmw Posted July 18, 2007 Author Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 She is being childish. Don't be an enabler. Agreed. I'm trying not to be, but I don't think it's working out that way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members coyote-1 Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 You may be a guitargod, but you sure need to work on your womanizing skills. Her name is Heather. Jess is my ex, who I left to be with Heather. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Svi Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 I wonder what it would be like if the tables were turned. I know if I called my ex boyfriend's name out in my sleep, my husband would be very hurt. I think he might be upset for a bit. I know I would be. It's a hurtful thing. I don't think she's being childish at all, it will take some time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members skatalite Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 Cut the bed in half to show her who's boss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RSBro Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 I've almost/kinda sorta done this before too.I'm not sure how it can be helped bro. It's not like you can control your dreams or what you do during them. They're buried into your subconscious. I have dreams about exes all the time. I just don't think (that I know of) I talk in my sleep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members coyote-1 Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 My wife has called my by her ex's name more than once. In the moment it takes me slightly aback, but it's a natural mistake. Anyone who does not realize that and allow for it probably isn't grown up enough to be in a relationship. I wonder what it would be like if the tables were turned.I know if I called my ex boyfriend's name out in my sleep, my husband would be very hurt. I think he might be upset for a bit. I know I would be. It's a hurtful thing. I don't think she's being childish at all, it will take some time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members catphish Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 I know I would be. It's a hurtful thing. I don't think she's being childish at all, it will take some time. It's understandable to be a little hurt, and maybe even upset at first, but it shouldn't take long for her to understand that he didn't do it on purpose, it was a mental misfire, and he loves her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators ThudMaker Posted July 18, 2007 Moderators Share Posted July 18, 2007 I wonder what it would be like if the tables were turned.I know if I called my ex boyfriend's name out in my sleep, my husband would be very hurt. I think he might be upset for a bit. I know I would be. It's a hurtful thing. I don't think she's being childish at all, it will take some time.Caught off guard is one thing. The manner in which that information is processed and dealt with is another. We're talking about someone saying something in their sleep. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to comprehend what happens when we sleep. Do you women get angry because we consistently have erections throughout our dreams? God knows what we're thinking about. I know I don't. Is that something I'm going to allow my wife to hold over my head for more than 10 seconds? No way. Someone needs to be a grown up. There are bills to be paid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members snd4c Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 I would just act like nothing happend and sleep on the couch. Its obvious she's trying to punish you so don't let her see that it actually affects you and she'll probably come around and realize she's being an ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vismund624 Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 Didn't he die a few months ago? Or am I thinking of somebody else? I think you're thinking of James Brown. I make that mistake too much too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Kindness Posted July 18, 2007 Moderators Share Posted July 18, 2007 I wonder what it would be like if the tables were turned.I know if I called my ex boyfriend's name out in my sleep, my husband would be very hurt. I think he might be upset for a bit. I know I would be. It's a hurtful thing. I don't think she's being childish at all, it will take some time. It's definitely hurtful. However, a mature relationship is built on honesty and trust. In a mature relationship, if he turns to her and says, I know that it was hurtful to hear, but I love you, I married you, I want to share my life with you, there is no one else for me (1) she should know he is sincere and (2) that should be all he "needs" to do to set things back on course. Of course she might feel stung for a bit and it is a bump in the road, but if something this small causes an issue, I'd be very concerned about the future of the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members brotherbass Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 Dude, she is hurt and that is not childish, it is to be expected. Taking into account that this was not a great night anyway, she is reacting very normally. I have counseled many couples in similar situations, and the reaction is always a fueled by previous circumstances. (i.e. If all was fine, she would have blown it off in a couple of hours) Tell her you are sorry, and sleep on the couch. Both of these show ownership of the issue and that you agree that you messed up. No one wants to hear someone else Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members funkrockfreedomfighter Posted July 18, 2007 Members Share Posted July 18, 2007 Clearly the only answer is to put it in her butt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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