Members Ernest Buckley Posted September 4, 2011 Members Share Posted September 4, 2011 Living with advanced Stage IV cancer has been quite the wake-up call I assure you, but NEVER did I believe them when they told me how little time I "probably" had left. But regardless, it DID give me a sense of urgency about my life and what I was doing with it and caused me to confront the very real mortality that awaits all of us. But the reality is I could just as easily be killed by a drunk driver tomorrow. I am actually THANKFUL for the experiences as it has caused me to live a very richly rewarding life over the past 16 years. I have traveled extensively, I have spent a great amount of time in the company of family and friends. I have gotten busy with my music trying to leave some kind of legacy. And I have done most anything I wanted to do without hesitation because I can't believe in "waiting for that perfect time", or until I have enough money, or whatever excuses many use to delay their pleasures. Thanks for sharing your story. It is amazing and inspiring. I think the biggest factor for myself is what you mentioned... waiting for the perfect time. It doesn`t exist, does it? Now is the perfect time, not some future or past event. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Cosmik de Bris Posted September 4, 2011 Members Share Posted September 4, 2011 I have a list of people that need to be dealt with.... Hmmm, yeah, me too, that's exactly what I'm doing at the moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members LeonardScaper Posted September 4, 2011 Members Share Posted September 4, 2011 ...would you stay on the same path that you are already on? One year....not enough time to change direction. I would simply stop........and take a real good look around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lukenskywalker Posted September 4, 2011 Members Share Posted September 4, 2011 ^^^^^ your words Leonard...'It's a Long Ride Home' Your 'nabe', Luke Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Richard King Posted September 5, 2011 Members Share Posted September 5, 2011 ....Living with advanced Stage IV cancer has been quite the wake-up call I assure you, but NEVER did I believe them when they told me how little time I "probably" had left. But regardless, it DID give me a sense of urgency about my life and what I was doing with it and caused me to confront the very real mortality that awaits all of us. But the reality is I could just as easily be killed by a drunk driver tomorrow. I am actually THANKFUL for the experiences as it has caused me to live a very richly rewarding life over the past 16 years. I have traveled extensively, I have spent a great amount of time in the company of family and friends. I have gotten busy with my music trying to leave some kind of legacy. And I have done most anything I wanted to do without hesitation because I can't believe in "waiting for that perfect time", or until I have enough money, or whatever excuses many use to delay their pleasures. Each of us must choose what is most important to us but for ME, nothing has meant more than the time spent in the company of others, and being able to share my story of survival and triumph, fleeting as it may be. If any of you are interested in the details you can read the full story (with pics) here: http://www.reactiveprojects.com/guru/cancer.html It's great to see that someone could survive for this kind of "illness". I have recently (June 2011) been "chosen" to have a class IV case of brain cancer. Radiation treatment was completed on Aug 16. Chemo was done about a week ago. I get an MRI on Oct. 6. My earlier comments about selling the two properties were serious. I don't need the buildings and could do more with the cash from the projects, ending with about $800k after paying off everything. Portions of that should allow me to to do a half way decent studio job at the house. The studio will be built in what is now a 27'x17' patio area that has a solid roof and had screens that are going to be replaced with double pane sliding doors. Hopefully that will quiet the sounds from A1A in front of my house. The patio is on the back side of the house, so, much of the A1A sound won't be a big problem either way. So, do things change with health changes, yep, you bet, hopefully to the better and more interesting. My time will be better and more interesting, but who knows how long this will take place. Statistics are all over the place. Anyone want to buy some property in Vero Beach? Both went on the market with a couple of agents about a month ago. We'll see what happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members techristian Posted September 5, 2011 Author Members Share Posted September 5, 2011 30 years ago, they told my aunt that she had 5 years left. My uncle was in the oil drilling business,and spent months away from home, so for that first 5 years after the bad news, he took her with him everywhere in a trailer. Now thirty years later, with a liver transplant and dialysis at the age of 86, she is still alive.......and he has been gone for 10 years. Dan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Richard King Posted October 22, 2011 Members Share Posted October 22, 2011 Now thirty years later, with a liver transplant and dialysis at the age of 86, she is still alive.......and he has been gone for 10 years. Dan I'm quietly awaiting for my brain transplant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Goobers Posted October 22, 2011 Members Share Posted October 22, 2011 I'm quietly awaiting for my brain transplant. You can have mine. I'm not using it all that much these days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members A. Einstein Posted October 22, 2011 Members Share Posted October 22, 2011 I'm quietly awaiting for my brain transplant. I need a new dick, my old one is worn out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Richard King Posted October 23, 2011 Members Share Posted October 23, 2011 Obviously, you have been overusing some parts and I have been overusing other parts in a similar time frame. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Goobers Posted October 23, 2011 Members Share Posted October 23, 2011 Most certainly not changing anything for anyone here. not even me? after all we've been through? WTF? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members rjt Posted October 23, 2011 Members Share Posted October 23, 2011 It really amazes me how some people forget they are finite. While often an unpleasant thought (not always and not for everyone), remembering your death can provide an (IMHO) important perspective on how we live our life. However, when I see people thinking their 60 hour a week job (which they hate) or cleaning the toilet bowl every weekend will somehow improve their life, I wonder if they keep their finiteness in mind.... perhaps they do. Working in a hospital kind of forces me to look at finiteness and our overall health in general, on a daily basis. As a result, I cut back to part time work and hopefully will retire early. It has also motivated me to travel to many (I'll never get to all of them!!) places I want to see. Most importantly, I think it reminds me to treat people as though I may never see them again (which will happen one day,) and I think that has improved many of my relationships. There is nothing new in this post, just stating I am amazed how people overlook the fact that time is limited for us (well, in this form, in this life, etc. etc.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Phait Posted October 23, 2011 Members Share Posted October 23, 2011 I'd kiss the girl I love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members A. Einstein Posted October 23, 2011 Members Share Posted October 23, 2011 A better question IMHO (the sentence until here it is already a contradiction), would be: "What would you make different if you could live your life again?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members techristian Posted October 26, 2011 Author Members Share Posted October 26, 2011 Someone posted a banner on FaceBook today. I think that it may apply to this thread.. LIVE LIFE AS IF YOU'LL DIE TOMORROWDREAM AS IFYOU'LL LIVEFOREVER Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Lee Knight Posted October 26, 2011 Moderators Share Posted October 26, 2011 I'd move into Walt's private apartment above the fire station on Main Street and party like a 10 year old. With my daughter. For a year. I'm 52 and she's 14. It'd be awesome. We'd eat caramel corn for breakfast, have clam chowder in sourdough bowls aboard the Mark Twain Riverboat for lunch. Dinner would most likely take place on Tom Sawyer Island in a secret tree house. As the time for hospice arrived, I'd move into the Dentist's Office down Main Street. I'd have the Disney Doctors make me as comfortable as possible. I'd still be close to my daughter as she would only be half of Main Street away. Her friends would have full access to the park so she'd be in social heaven. She'd visit me everyday and bring me giant lollipops until the final day... I'll be buried in the Mickey flower garden at main gate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MargeHowel Posted October 26, 2011 Members Share Posted October 26, 2011 It's kind of an interesting question in terms of strategy, it's sort of like blitz chess where you know endgame is coming not just from your moves, but from the clock too I'd probably hit up a financial advisor and see about restructuring things since I don't have to prepare for a future. I could probably dump preventative care (no use flossing woo hoo!), and parts of my fitness program I find beneficial but boring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Johnny-Boy Posted October 26, 2011 Members Share Posted October 26, 2011 I'd carry on as usual. 'Cause I wouldn't believe the idiot doctor that told me I only had one year to live. Who the hell do they think they are, God? John:cool: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Richard King Posted October 26, 2011 Members Share Posted October 26, 2011 Load my recording equipment in my car as it is in the current car picture on my website. Try to visit all 48 lower states and record one band in each state. Turn that CD into a series hit nationally. THAT is my actual plan for a few years if I sell the second house and commercial building that I have on the market here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members techristian Posted October 27, 2011 Author Members Share Posted October 27, 2011 It's kind of an interesting question in terms of strategy, it's sort of like blitz chess where you know endgame is coming not just from your moves, but from the clock too And ,as in chess, we wouldn't want to give up without a good fight. Right ? Dan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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