Members TheCardiacKid Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 This. My boo is the best and I find it very easy for us because we both want it to work and we love being together. She is none more betterer. We are not married. Although oversimplified I agree with Danox3. Glad to see some other romantics here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vinnies Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 We didn't live together prior. this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members big_cat Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 I may be wrong but i would think it highly unusual that anyone in the UK would just jump straight into marriage these days without living together for some time first. Despite this thread, it's quite unusual here too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members onyxrhino Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 lived together for 5 or so years before getting married Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mlabbee Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 I only see two reasons to get married.1. You believe in god or gods2. Insurance.Other than that, marriage is an outdated practice that needs to go away.Been with my partner going on 6 years, moved in after dating for two weeks.When it's right, it's right. Old enough not to fool around with bull{censored}. there are actually a lot of legal reasons to get married, many of them having to do with kids. If you read up on some of the arguments for same sex marriage, you begin to realize how significant some of these laws are. Things like what happens to your kids if you die, property ownership (and tax treatment thereof), etc. I recently took a course on wills and estates and was kind of dumbfounded by all the things that had never occurred to me that get automatically triggered by marriage. As for the original question, my wife and I lived together for about a year before we got married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members six acre lake Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 there are actually a lot of legal reasons to get married, many of them having to do with kids. If you read up on some of the arguments for same sex marriage, you begin to realize how significant some of these laws are. Things like what happens to your kids if you die, property ownership (and tax treatment thereof), etc. I recently took a course on wills and estates and was kind of dumbfounded by all the things that had never occurred to me that get automatically triggered by marriage. As for the original question, my wife and I lived together for about a year before we got married. It's called a will. Write one. I have two friends that have been together forever and they adopted two boys. If something happens to one of them their partner is in control. No questions. I am all for same sex marriage. Why the {censored} not? Cause youre afraid of the gays and the "sanctity" of some business / religious tradition? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tattoedsailor Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 We lived together for 2 years. I wouldn't get married unless we did. Part of being married is you gotta live them. Its like jumping in a cold lake with out testing water first.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members six acre lake Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 We lived together for 2 years. I wouldn't get married unless we did. Part of being married is you gotta live them. Its like jumping in a cold lake with out testing water first.. A lake full of vagina. In before Star Wars Sarlacc Pit image. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Zooey Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 there are actually a lot of legal reasons to get married, many of them having to do with kids. If you read up on some of the arguments for same sex marriage, you begin to realize how significant some of these laws are. Things like what happens to your kids if you die, property ownership (and tax treatment thereof), etc. I recently took a course on wills and estates and was kind of dumbfounded by all the things that had never occurred to me that get automatically triggered by marriage. Yep. It takes a bundle of legal agreements (like a will, a power of attorney, specific structure for property deeds, etc.) to approximate the financial and legal benefits of marriage. And even then, you can't get all the way there. The only way to qualify for social security survivor benefits, for example, is to be married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members six acre lake Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 Yep. It takes a bundle of legal agreements (like a will, a power of attorney, specific structure for property deeds, etc.) to approximate the financial and legal benefits of marriage. And even then, you can't get all the way there. The only way to qualify for social security survivor benefits, for example, is to be married. Married people need all those things as well you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members GreaserMatt Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 Live together for a bout 5 years first; you guys better make sure you love 'em first, LOL.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Urinate Forever Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 lived together for about 3 years before getting owned. that's how i read this post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Fender&EHX4ever Posted November 12, 2010 Members Share Posted November 12, 2010 We were engaged within 2 months of dating. She moved in with me about 4 months after our engagement, and then married about 10 months after our engagement. It all happened fast. That can happen when you don't find the right person until you are 35, and then WHAM!, they suddenly appear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members A.P. Ryder Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 I'm traditional: we started living together after we got married. She's Japanese, so there was no other way we could live together, as the Japanese do not condone living together before marriage (which was fine by me). Previously, I had never lived with a woman or girlfriend, so it was a bit bumpy for us the first year as we tried to figure out who does what, etc. 3 kids and 10 happy years so far. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members A.P. Ryder Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 We were engaged within 2 months of dating. She moved in with me about 4 months after our engagement, and then married about 10 months after our engagement. It all happened fast. That can happen when you don't find the right person until you are 35, and then WHAM!, they suddenly appear. I was 38 and she was 20 when we met. For years and years my mantra was, "I will never marry," and all it took was one look at her and all of that went out the window. "I will never have kids" was another delusion I had. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ambient Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 I'm traditional: we started living together after we got married. She's Japanese, so there was no other way we could live together, as the Japanese do not condone living together before marriage (which was fine by me). Previously, I had never lived with a woman or girlfriend, so it was a bit bumpy for us the first year as we tried to figure out who does what, etc. 3 kids and 10 happy years so far.My Japanese fiancee and I have been living together for the past 3.5-4 years.But that's been in Australia and New Zealand. We're moving to Japan in 4 weeks and will be living with her family though we're already married in the eyes of Japanese law, we just haven't had our wedding yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members placebo62 Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 Been living together for 10 years, not married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members NITROHOLIC Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 always live with them first. i lived with mine for a few years prior to gettin married Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members onyxrhino Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 I only see two reasons to get married.1. You believe in god or gods2. Insurance.Other than that, marriage is an outdated practice that needs to go away.Been with my partner going on 6 years, moved in after dating for two weeks.When it's right, it's right. Old enough not to fool around with bull{censored}. yeah, i've seen that argument before. it makes perfect sense if all you think about is yourself. but, i think it's nice for kids to see that their parents are actually committed to always being together, and being a solid family unit for them. you don't have to have legal documentation to be those things, but if you're in love with your partner enough to commit to them fully and you aren't a {censored} , then you might as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ambient Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 I only see two reasons to get married.1. You believe in god or gods2. Insurance.Other than that, marriage is an outdated practice that needs to go away.Been with my partner going on 6 years, moved in after dating for two weeks.When it's right, it's right. Old enough not to fool around with bull{censored}. Add visas to the list. Oh and maybe love? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sad Darwin Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 Lived together 6 years before we got married, been married for 2 and a half. I kind of feel like not living together prior is a recipe for eventual divorce, but hey, everyone's different. It depends on the two people Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jules-RM Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 Met 2001 Moved in 2002 Married 2006 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members H.P. Lovecraft Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 I didn't "live" with her per se, but I stayed over quite often. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ollenorin Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 Most of my theories on marriage aside, not living together beforehand wasn't a big deal for us at all. If anything, it was an exciting challenge. Few people tell you this (at least, they didn't tell me), but maintaining a marriage isn't easy by any stretch Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members fuzzio Posted November 13, 2010 Members Share Posted November 13, 2010 We did not live with other. Met 1981, engaged 1982, married 1983, kids 1986 1988 1991, still married 2010. no {censored},,, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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