Members Loobs Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 Around a couple of weeks ago. I never really knew his Mother that well, only met her briefly on a few occasions. Is it appropriate to go to her funeral to support my buddy with another couple of close friends? Or would it be inappropriate considering how little I knew of her? I haven't asked him for details of her funeral yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members erksin Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 Just ask him if he'd like you to be there for him or if there is anything you can do. Whatever you do, don't make it any more work for him - he'll have enough on his plate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Loobs Posted April 12, 2009 Author Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 Yeah. I will ask him if he'd like us to be there. Last thing I want is to feel like I'm being intrusive by being there. Thanks dude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members daysofspeed Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 Three of my close friends have lost one of their parents in the last few years. My friends dad died and i had only met him once cos she lived with her mum. I asked her straight out if she wanted me to go to the funeral and she said yes. It was a bit weird but important to be there for her. Tell your friend want to go to support them, stand at the back and pay your respects. Or say if they'd rather keep it to family thats cool too. Its a horrible thing to see your friend go through, just being around for them generally can be a big help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members melx Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 When my Dad died a very good mate of mine traveled a long way to be at the funeral, I wasn't expecting him to come but he did....to support me. It's something I'll never forget. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members erksin Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 The thing a lot of people don't consider is that your friend may not have a lot of other people their age at the funeral aside from cousins, etc - your presence would probably be a major source of relief from the older folks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Tengo Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 I would ask if there is anything you can help with, perhaps not to go to the funeral expressly. I'm pretty certain it would be greatly appreciated though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ollenorin Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 go, any support is good. It will make your friend feel better and also you will feel better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members AnderMocs Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 Agree with everything above. Mojo sent to your friend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members space cred Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 agreed aswell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members dap99 Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 Definitely go! I was playing in a band and one of the guys (who I wasn't that close with) lost his dad. I wasn't sure if I should go (and I hate wakes/funerals), and then I almost left b/c there were a {censored}load of people. Took me over an hour to get to the family. But when I got there, the dude was SO happy to see me it made it all worth it. There were so many people there he didn't know, hadn't met, or hadn't seen in ages, that when he saw me, it was some huge relief or something. He was so appreciative. So I've changed my tune on those things since then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SharkMinusBear Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 go, i think it would mean a lot to him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members who235 Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 The funeral ritual isn't really for her. She has already passed on. The ritual is for him and his family and her friends, etc. . . - the living. You should go to support your friend regardless of whether you knew his mother well or not. He'll appreciate it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members (⌐■_■) Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 go but keep in mind other relatives might feel it was intrusive if they want to quitly be with there family it totally depends on the size of the funeral a big one with lots of unknown people he has to deal with and he will need the support of his friends (even if only in the backgrounds as a stabilizing presence) a small one with family should be left to them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Loobs Posted April 12, 2009 Author Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 I think it'll be a small funeral, they're a close knit private family. I'll talk to him in the week. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members archives Posted April 12, 2009 Members Share Posted April 12, 2009 A couple weeks ago? You probably missed the funeral... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gremson Posted April 13, 2009 Members Share Posted April 13, 2009 Not even a week before my mom passed away I met my buddy Doug.I met my mom once, but after she passed he came to the funeral.Total Bro move on his part. He's been a great friend of mine ever since. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members booher Posted April 13, 2009 Members Share Posted April 13, 2009 He's your good friend. Go and support him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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