Members syscrusher Posted January 1, 2010 Members Share Posted January 1, 2010 well I said on my first post I pretty much had already decided what I am going to do and that's staying with my current girl. We have a great relationship and I don't think it's worth ruining that because someone from my past decided to reappear out of the blue. Yeah it's tempting to think "what if" and wonder if the grass is greener on the other site, but this girl and I have been committed for a few months now and it's been great. There's always some kind of temptation out there but a commitment is a commitment.Your an honorable sincere man to be respected. Besides, their all going to get on your {censored}ing nerves any ways. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members petejt Posted January 1, 2010 Members Share Posted January 1, 2010 Ok let me start this by saying I pretty much already know what to do about this.. I'm just throwing it out there to get some other perspectives and of course, teh lulz So I was going out with this girl like 6 months ago and everything was perfect, nice girl, good looking , great sex, good personality etc etc.. basically the whole package. Everything was fine until she told me she was going to be transferred out of the state by her job. So obviously at that point the relationship had to end because I don't do the long distance thing. All good, I was sad for a few days, got over it, resumed my single life and eventually started to date another girl, who I am with now. Today I get a text from the first girl saying she is back in CA and really wants to see me. I told her I can't because I have another girl now. She said we still can see each other just as friends. Yeah we can but I KNOW that's not gonna work because there is a lot of mutual attraction there and it's not like we even wanted to break up. also, to be honest this girl is a LOT cuter and a better match for me than my current gf in many ways, I don't have any problems with my current gf but still. So what would you do if you were in my position?? Invite them both for a threesome? I dunno mate, sorry. I've {censored}ed up relationships before where I knocked back chicks who just seemed as friends at first but were keen on me, because I was still too hung up on other chicks that at the end of the day wanted nothing to do with me........ I am a mess with this stuff so I don't know what I would do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members petejt Posted January 1, 2010 Members Share Posted January 1, 2010 well I said on my first post I pretty much had already decided what I am going to do and that's staying with my current girl. We have a great relationship and I don't think it's worth ruining that because someone from my past decided to reappear out of the blue. Yeah it's tempting to think "what if" and wonder if the grass is greener on the other site, but this girl and I have been committed for a few months now and it's been great. There's always some kind of temptation out there but a commitment is a commitment. Good onya mate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Krallum Posted January 1, 2010 Members Share Posted January 1, 2010 If i was in that situation i would post some pics, what the {censored} is wrong with you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Belva Posted January 1, 2010 Members Share Posted January 1, 2010 Base instincts brought up again. If the relationship was good and the sex was too, you naturally want to do it again. That's why there is no danger of the human race becoming extinct. We enjoy breeding. It's up to you to decide which girl you prefer. Don't let your little head to too much of the thinkin'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members guitarbilly74 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Members Share Posted January 2, 2010 I don't see why you can't have lunch with her or something. Just make it clear. If you do something, well...that's your fault.I still have lunch with a few of my ex's and were pretty good friends (they are pretty attractive as well). Doesn't change the fact that I'm still focusing on only one girl. Yeah I could, but that would mean I would have to do one of 2 things: 1- Tell my girlfriend I was going (and probably have to explain a lot of {censored} to her) 2- Hide it from my gf And I am not willing to do either. So I will just leave it alone. Last night, after I posted this, I went out with my girl for New Years, then spent the night at her house and it was awesome as usual, wiping away any doubts that I am making the right decision staying with her. She's an awesome girl and I am lucky to have her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mhr74 Posted January 2, 2010 Members Share Posted January 2, 2010 You have 1 life, its short, go for what is better for you NAO. You cant afford to 'settle for whatever'. Be strong and politely get rid of the current gf. Thank me later. -D prolly this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members exafro Posted January 2, 2010 Members Share Posted January 2, 2010 Yeah I could, but that would mean I would have to do one of 2 things:1- Tell my girlfriend I was going (and probably have to explain a lot of {censored} to her)2- Hide it from my gfAnd I am not willing to do either. So I will just leave it alone.Last night, after I posted this, I went out with my girl for New Years, then spent the night at her house and it was awesome as usual, wiping away any doubts that I am making the right decision staying with her. She's an awesome girl and I am lucky to have her. Good decisions. If you have something good going, don't mess it up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members olgluefoot Posted January 2, 2010 Members Share Posted January 2, 2010 obviously you need to try for the 3some Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members frankiej Posted January 2, 2010 Members Share Posted January 2, 2010 True...I've been lucky enough to get girls whom don't get jealous or care about my past relations with other girls.Yeah I could, but that would mean I would have to do one of 2 things:1- Tell my girlfriend I was going (and probably have to explain a lot of {censored} to her)2- Hide it from my gfAnd I am not willing to do either. So I will just leave it alone.Last night, after I posted this, I went out with my girl for New Years, then spent the night at her house and it was awesome as usual, wiping away any doubts that I am making the right decision staying with her. She's an awesome girl and I am lucky to have her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tmdguitar Posted January 2, 2010 Members Share Posted January 2, 2010 read the chapter in this about cheating, and reap in the benefits:thu:http://www.amazon.com/Things-Every-Guy-Should-Know/dp/B000VYIZ3Y/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262411361&sr=8-1 best book ever Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members kanamvar32 Posted January 2, 2010 Members Share Posted January 2, 2010 I agree, but that's still a {censored}ing excuse. Man should be above their base instincts to a point.holy crap, a guy on HCAF that may not be a total pig "Should" is definitely the right word to use there. I don't know many who behave above base instincts but I think it's something people should strive toward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nvranka Posted January 2, 2010 Members Share Posted January 2, 2010 You have 1 life, its short, go for what is better for you NAO. You cant afford to 'settle for whatever'. Be strong and politely get rid of the current gf. Thank me later. -D this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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