Members lexavier Posted March 14, 2006 Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 Hey everyone, Just need opinions on the band situation im in. I have been in a "screamo band" for the past 3 months and I enjoy it because it has really made my rhythm chops get better, and I get along with everyone in the band. I just kind of keep things to myself . . . . Like . . . I think I am going freaking crazy . . . . Look, I used to hate this genre but I do want to consider myself a good musician, so I like to explore different things and see what I love and despise. I did become a better player out of this, and I acquired some good band ethics, but I am just sick and tired of writing stupid "cute" as they call it, Hawthorne heights, overly repetitive, all in drop d bull{censored}. Some of my ideas are used but the rhythm guitarist (im the lead) is very {censored}ing self righteous "im doing this for the rest of my life and no one will stop me and if you leave the band ill hate you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vanlatte Posted March 14, 2006 Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 From what you just described, I can't imagine why are you wasting one more second of your life in this messed up sitation. Guilt trips? Drama? Blah, you can do better than that. Who needs it?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members zookie Posted March 14, 2006 Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 1. You don't like the musical style 2. You don't like the group dynamics. Quit. Do it "professionally", meaning explain that you want to move in a new direction, so long and thanks for the memories. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members BlueStrat Posted March 14, 2006 Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 Ditto what's been said, except I'll add this: Your rhythm player needs to be cock punched. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members zookie Posted March 14, 2006 Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 Originally posted by BlueStrat Your rhythm player needs to be cock punched. More to the point! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators daddymack Posted March 14, 2006 Moderators Share Posted March 14, 2006 At the next rehearsal, read your entire original post aloud, and then say "thanks for all the fish...buh-bye..." and hike it. You have only been with them for 3 months...and you made no mention of there being any gigs coming up, so...Your rhythm player is a control freak with delusions of adequacy; the genre, as you noted, is a dead end; you got into this to expand your musical horizon, but it is unsatisfying...you will all be better off with you out of their band. I have to say you should not find them a replacement guitarist...I would never suggest that when you leave a situation which you find toxic...why wish that dickhead on someone else? Take your time, find like-minded people and start the band you want to be in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members squealie Posted March 14, 2006 Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 I think I used to play in a band with this guy. If he does this to everyone in the band.... they probably resent it as much as you do. Fire his ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Roy Brooks Posted March 14, 2006 Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 Hang in there and play those gigs while looking around for something else.It might also be a good idea to have a nice long talk with the other guitar player to clear your mind. If he doesn't want to talk tell him you need to talk anyway. Tell him that's the way it is.You could also think about getting together on off nights with the folks in the band you do enjoy playing with to work on other music.Also, maybe buy some method books and/or take lessons. Start listening to some completely different music than you currently listen to. Develop your skills in new areas. The better and more versatile you can get the more opportunities will present themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lexavier Posted March 14, 2006 Author Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 hey thanks guys for all the replies, I really appreciate it. Well I think you are right saying go out and play the shows, I think the one advantage that will give me is that word will spread around about my playing (no egotism) and I may get other band opportunities if I am considered a good player. I am going to try and have a talk with the guy at some point. the one thing that matters is that im clear headed now , now that i know im not the dickhead out of the band. thanks again guys! keep playing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Guitar Centaur Posted March 14, 2006 Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 I only have one question..... WTF is "Screamo"?! Even the genre name sounds ghey..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lexavier Posted March 14, 2006 Author Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 eh whatever, It's not like I enjoy it totally so say what you will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Raspberry Posted March 14, 2006 Members Share Posted March 14, 2006 If the drummer and bassist are okay, then tell the rhythm guitarist to {censored} off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Scodiddly Posted March 15, 2006 Members Share Posted March 15, 2006 The night that the rhythm guy is with the girlfriend... go ahead and practice with the other guys anyway. Then make sure to rub it in next full practice, like having a cool breakdown that everybody else learned at that partial practice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members elbow Posted March 15, 2006 Members Share Posted March 15, 2006 Sounds like part of this is on you too. Not that you are a bad person at all, but you are letting yourself be the victim. You have to stop the cycle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Guitar Centaur Posted March 15, 2006 Members Share Posted March 15, 2006 Originally posted by lexavier eh whatever, It's not like I enjoy it totally so say what you will. No, really....... WTF is "Screamo"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lexavier Posted March 15, 2006 Author Members Share Posted March 15, 2006 I dont even know what the hell screamo is man. I just play. No I am not really trying to put this on anyone else, I know that I am fully responsible for how im feeling but im good friends with the drummer and I am sticking around to see if things change. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SanDiego333 Posted March 15, 2006 Members Share Posted March 15, 2006 Sounds like it's time to move on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Crusher Posted March 15, 2006 Members Share Posted March 15, 2006 If the practice space is at your house, why is he scheduling the practices? and him giving you {censored} for not being able to practice when you have other matters that are more important is not cool at all? I'd tell him to {censored} off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Outrider Posted March 15, 2006 Members Share Posted March 15, 2006 Originally posted by daddymack Your rhythm player is a control freak with delusions of adequacy. Classic! I agree with most of the others...if this guy is making you unhappy, then end it. If you like working with the other guys in the band, take them with you. They are probably sick of him, too. This kind of ongoing misery should be saved for marraige. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lexavier Posted March 15, 2006 Author Members Share Posted March 15, 2006 ahahahah I dont even want to think of marriage! but the thing is nobody else feels the same way. maybe the singer, definatley not the bassist, hes not around enough and the reason why he doesnt get {censored} for it is because he works and pays his way through college. but when I talk to the drummer he just says nicely "look dude I know him inside out and he doesn't mean it this way" blah blah blah, there is no sympathy towards my way what so ever. so its probably going to come down to me and the guitarist having an outing. thanks again guys Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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