Members dirtybart Posted December 11, 2006 Members Share Posted December 11, 2006 my band has been playing together in this incarnation for about a year now. the problem we got is one guy wants to do some stuff the rest of us dont want to do. we have been friends for many, many years and played off and on together over those years so i feel some loyalty to him. well a few days ago he had been saying to another guy in our band that he wanted to bring in a new guitar player and a singer with a replacement type situation in mind (im assuming here) Im a lil pissed off about it so i confronted him in a roundabout way about it. ive talked to the other guys about it and they seem a lil pissed about it too. this guys personal life has gotten in the way of some stuff that we are wanting to do. he doesnt practice his instrument like we feel he should and basically doesn't seem into what we are doing. we've talked about replacing him on a few different moments. should we give this guy the boot? thanx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Micky Z Posted December 11, 2006 Members Share Posted December 11, 2006 Yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators daddymack Posted December 11, 2006 Moderators Share Posted December 11, 2006 Originally posted by dirtybart my band has been playing together in this incarnation for about a year now. the problem we got is one guy wants to do some stuff the rest of us dont want to do. we have been friends for many, many years and played off and on together over those years so i feel some loyalty to him. well a few days ago he had been saying to another guy in our band that he wanted to bring in a new guitar player and a singer with a replacement type situation in mind (im assuming here) Im a lil pissed off about it so i confronted him in a roundabout way about it. ive talked to the other guys about it and they seem a lil pissed about it too. this guys personal life has gotten in the way of some stuff that we are wanting to do. he doesnt practice his instrument like we feel he should and basically doesn't seem into what we are doing. we've talked about replacing him on a few different moments. should we give this guy the boot? thanx What does he play...maybe you take in the replacement players he wanted to bring in and replace him? It sounds like he is trying to manipulate things his way, yet your explanation makes him the odd man out...I would suggest to have a band meeting, and sort this out....which may well mean giving him the heave-ho! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Micky Z Posted December 11, 2006 Members Share Posted December 11, 2006 Sorry, didn't mean to be so short, but on re-reading, it seems to the point. My thinking was that if he had already started talking about replacements (either for someone else in the band or perhaps for himself), that coupled with his wanting to do things other than the rest of the band, it sounds like he's already into something other than the current band. No need to let "loyalty" get in the way. In fact, quickly and (relatively) painlessly cutting the knot may help save the friendship part by minimizing any aggravation. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cromulent Posted December 11, 2006 Members Share Posted December 11, 2006 If he has these replacements, then he can always make a new band with them if you let him go. He'll be ok. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members caveman Posted December 11, 2006 Members Share Posted December 11, 2006 The very next time the band gets together ask him what's up. Get it out in front of everybody. The guy wants to go in a different direction and doesn't mind pirating your band to do it. Yep, I'd ask the guy to explain his intentions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members dysfunxeunol Posted December 11, 2006 Members Share Posted December 11, 2006 This forum should be renamed Band Member Problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members dirtybart Posted December 13, 2006 Author Members Share Posted December 13, 2006 thanx for the advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cruedntattooed Posted December 15, 2006 Members Share Posted December 15, 2006 funny ass thing, DB, our band is goin' through the same thing. the EXACT same thing. Depending on how much of a dick the guy is bein' decides how ya handle it. If he's just not into it anymore...call a band meeting, explain it, find out for sure & if needed, find someone else. If he's actively refusing to do shows, purposely trying to sabatage {censored}, pitting band members against each other, gloves are off, you owe him {censored}. no "i love ya man but"...no "we wish ya luck"....no "we'll give ya one more chance".... just my 12 cents tho bro (inflation ya know). hope ya have many Years of rockin' the {censored} out, good luck & let me know how you are Coming along Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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