Members grace_slick Posted January 4, 2011 Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 Now I Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Chicken Monkey Posted January 4, 2011 Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 Almost everyone in the world won't care in the least about your songs. We have to accept that we toil in obscurity. The creative act is its own reward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members rsadasiv Posted January 4, 2011 Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 It means that your partner is interested in YOU, not necessarily your music. If it were the other way around she would be your fan, not your partner (and that status provides a seriously reduced set of benefits). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members grace_slick Posted January 4, 2011 Author Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 Yeah, that is true Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members blue2blue Posted January 4, 2011 Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 It means you might be able to get away without disguising the subjects of the songs as much. I always figured it must be a drag to be the significant other of an artist who mostly writes about interpersonal relationships. I mean, I always went through the rigamarole of calling my songs fiction and admitting to, at most, composite characters -- but, while I certainly went out with a couple of wobbly orbit types, none of my GFs were ever dumb. To the extent they knew about previous loves, they probably had a good shot at sussing who was who. I've never had a steady GF who was a songwriter herself at the time, though (off the top of my head... sometimes it's a bit of a blur). A poet or two. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members grace_slick Posted January 4, 2011 Author Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 Well, actually, funny you say that, cause one of the songs she did listen to was Escape From the Heart, which is basically about someone who was attracted to a cold hearted yuck person, and then was with them, but then regretted it...blah. She was worried it was about HER, and it SO isn't! In fact, NONE of my songs are about me or us...if they were, they'd be happy songs, not vaguely disturbed ones. lol. My songs kinda write themselves based on something that's not really me...just my imagination. And I mean, seriously, this is the case. I'm not disguising songs. Not at all. I am happy with my partner. Always have been. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ido1957 Posted January 4, 2011 Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 Write for yourself first, and others second. Only you can make yourself truly happy through self-awareness and self-respect. Post here for good subjective/objective feedback that you can apply to your craft. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members blue2blue Posted January 4, 2011 Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 Well, actually, funny you say that, cause one of the songs she did listen to was Escape From the Heart, which is basically about someone who was attracted to a cold hearted yuck person, and then was with them, but then regretted it...blah. She was worried it was about HER, and it SO isn't! In fact, NONE of my songs are about me or us...if they were, they'd be happy songs, not vaguely disturbed ones. lol. My songs kinda write themselves based on something that's not really me...just my imagination. And I mean, seriously, this is the case. I'm not disguising songs. Not at all. I am happy with my partner. Always have been. Ah... I see she knows you post here. :D I write to impress my cat... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members grace_slick Posted January 4, 2011 Author Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 Aw noo! Truly no!! I love my wife! Lol. She is nothing but good to me and we Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Marshal Posted January 4, 2011 Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 . . . , it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members grace_slick Posted January 4, 2011 Author Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 Hmm...yes. Funnily, the other night I went to get something to eat from the kitchen, and found a piece of folded up paper on the bench. I opened it and saw a few lines of lyrics on it. I took it to my partner and she was a bit embarrassed and said I wasn't meant to see that. It's some song lyrics she's just started and she put it there intending to hide it. LOL. It's actually really nice and quite good, what she's done. About an old gartree and an old man...it'll be a folk song...it also isn't about me or our relationship, which is good. lol. I have to keep myself from butting in with suggestions, inspirations and ideas for it, since it's not my song. *control freak* lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Lee Knight Posted January 4, 2011 Moderators Share Posted January 4, 2011 It means that your partner is interested in YOU, not necessarily your music. If it were the other way around she would be your fan, not your partner (and that status provides a seriously reduced set of benefits). That's the conclusion I've come to as well. My wife could give a rat's ass. She likes my poetry some. She's not particularly into songs. She's all dance music. So she doesn't really get what I do. It was hard for me at first but then it hit me, hey... she digs me. That's even better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members notlimah Posted January 4, 2011 Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 My wife can take it or leave it. When it comes to something Ive written, I usually get the "yeah, that's pretty cool... can you fix the dining room chair?". That doesn't bother me so much. I don't think people realize how much of "you" you put into a song if they have never tried to write one. As much as I would like her to be really into it, it would be worse if her love/acceptance of me hinged on my meager songwriting ability. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tspit74 Posted January 4, 2011 Members Share Posted January 4, 2011 My wife is supportive and tolerant. But she doesn't listen to my songs and has no interest in them. I used to think it was weird. Actually, I prefer it that way. Sure, I'm proud of some of my tunes and would be really happy if she told me I was a great songwriter and to play them again for her. But I think that says more about me than her. She loves the guy whose faithful to her while being happy and getting some kind of fulfillment doing his thing. Songs aren't her thing. They're mine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Matximus Posted January 5, 2011 Members Share Posted January 5, 2011 This is not an uncommon thing. This is how it goes, especially if music is your hobby and not your primary means of financial support. I know this is how it is in my personal relationship - she's happy about my thing and thinks some works are cute and others blah...but she's not fawning over my latest masterwork, nor should she be. Creating songs (and performing them) really is akin to... well, let's just say it: Masterbating. It's a selfish thing - it really is. A lonely solitary pursuit. Nobody's all that interested in the private little things you do to please yourself.. that's just how it is. I know that's why I ramble on this forum - nobody in reality wants to hear me vomitize on these kinda song things... And that's probably how it should be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members grace_slick Posted January 5, 2011 Author Members Share Posted January 5, 2011 Yeah, good. Good that it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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