Members lug Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 "Look, I've been wanting to ask you out for a while but I'll pretty much a big chicken (grin here). Want to go out with a big chicken? (grin again)" Do...it...now. If she says no, I personally give you my promise that your head will NOT explode, nor will you develop scabies.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members LanEvo Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Originally posted by lug If she says no, I personally give you my promise that your head will NOT explode, nor will you develop scabies.. Actually, you might get scabies if she says "yes." You don't know where she's been.Emre[ OK, now we've officially moved on to the "immediate post-rejection" phase. You are now entitled to drown your sorrows with your buddies and make all kinds of conjectures about her scurrilous sexual history. Knock yourself out ] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members VSpaceBoy Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Just call her and ask her on the phone:"Hi this is me how are you?""Fine""Hey I though maybe you and I could catch a drink after work one day this week""Ok, I'll wear my thong and bring a video camera" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tenyearsgone Posted October 19, 2005 Author Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Originally posted by LanEvo Weak. Double weak. (Have you actually been reading this thread?) Yeah, sounds like you creeped her out. Oh well...not much you can do about it now. Live and learn Emre Weak nothin'. There IS NO OTHER WAY as I've stated many times SHE IS NEVER AROUND. I JUST CAN'T "GO TO HER DESK, WALK UP TO HER" ETC. WHEN SHE IS NOT THERE. Her friend is the one that suggested I do that (page) since it's so hard to reach her. If I go looking for her, in her dept., people are going to wonder what I'm doing over there. Not good. To say "i'm looking for 'so and so' isn't going to cut it. ESPECIALLY IF I MAKE MULTIPLE TRIPS OVER THERE.This is not as easy as it seems. That's why I posted the thread, to see how others might handle the situation in this very limited way. I was asking for opinions, not to be ridiculed, dude.I don't see how I could have creeped her out when the last time we talked everything was great. I don't follow her, don't bug her, BARELY SEE HER AND SOMETIMES NOT FOR WEEKS AT A TIME. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DanTolen Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Originally posted by tenyearsgone Weak nothin'. There IS NO OTHER WAY as I've stated many times SHE IS NEVER AROUND. I JUST CAN'T "GO TO HER DESK, WALK UP TO HER" ETC. WHEN SHE IS NOT THERE. Her friend is the one that suggested I do that (page) since it's so hard to reach her. If I go looking for her, in her dept., people are going to wonder what I'm doing over there. Not good. To say "i'm looking for 'so and so' isn't going to cut it. ESPECIALLY IF I MAKE MULTIPLE TRIPS OVER THERE.This is not as easy as it seems. That's why I posted the thread, to see how others might handle the situation in this very limited way. I was asking for opinions, not to be ridiculed, dude.I don't see how I could have creeped her out when the last time we talked everything was great. I don't follow her, don't bug her, BARELY SEE HER AND SOMETIMES NOT FOR WEEKS AT A TIME. Wait until you see her again and ask for her number:confused: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members LanEvo Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Originally posted by tenyearsgone Weak nothin'. There IS NO OTHER WAY as I've stated many times SHE IS NEVER AROUND. I JUST CAN'T "GO TO HER DESK, WALK UP TO HER" ETC. WHEN SHE IS NOT THERE. Look, I'm sorry...I didn't mean to sound harsh before. I was basically just screwing around. However, the bottom line is the same: you absolutely, positively CANNOT ask a girl out for the first time via e-mail/pager/telephone. You need to do it face-to-face otherwise you can just forget it. Unless the girl is already crazy about you (in that case you can do anything and get away with it) you'll turn her off if you're not direct. Emre Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members y-o-y Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 If she is so hard to find at work, and you only have her work pager number which she doesn't pay attention to if she is not on call AND you know her friend AND said friend seems to be ok with you asking her out, why don't you get the mobile number from her friend and call her there? (this of course assumes she has a mobile phone) seems to me you have the resources available to ask what you need to ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members VSpaceBoy Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Originally posted by LanEvo However, the bottom line is the same: you absolutely, positively CANNOT ask a girl out for the first time via e-mail/pager/telephone. You need to do it face-to-face otherwise you can just forget it. Unless the girl is already crazy about you (in that case you can do anything and get away with it) you'll turn her off if you're not direct. Wrong You don't have to do it in person, the phone is just fine. Its not like your in a night club passing a note to some chick asking "will you go out with me Y or N - circle one"You already know this chick. You also don't have to make a big deal about it. Yes you have to be confident, but ask lightly and it'll make it easier than cornering her in the office. If you call her on the phone and ask "Hey, this is me, wanna grab a drink or maybe some dinner after work one day this week?"is a lot better than"Hi, I thought I would come over and tell you how nice you look today. Oh BTW, do you think it would be possible for you and I to get together on Friday night around 7:30 for some dinner, and then possibly a movie afterwards?" Geeze, you work with her (no no to begin with) and if you make it weird, there goes your pleasant working enviroment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tenyearsgone Posted October 19, 2005 Author Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Originally posted by VSpaceBoy Wrong You don't have to do it in person, the phone is just fine. Its not like your in a night club passing a note to some chick asking "will you go out with me Y or N - circle one" You already know this chick. You also don't have to make a big deal about it. Yes you have to be confident, but ask lightly and it'll make it easier than cornering her in the office. If you call her on the phone and ask "Hey, this is me, wanna grab a drink or maybe some dinner after work one day this week?" is a lot better than "Hi, I thought I would come over and tell you how nice you look today. Oh BTW, do you think it would be possible for you and I to get together on Friday night around 7:30 for some dinner, and then possibly a movie afterwards?" Geeze, you work with her (no no to begin with) and if you make it weird, there goes your pleasant working enviroment. +1 totallyWell she stopped by, I told her that was me that called and she laughed and said "Is something wrong with e-mail?" and I asked her if she was busy friday and if she would like to go see a movie. She said she was busy this weekend but maybe the next weekend or the weekend after and/or do lunch during the week. It's a start i guess..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members bassplayer7770 Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Originally posted by tenyearsgone It's a start i guess..... Hell yes it is!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members The Insomniac Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Originally posted by bassplayer7770 Hell yes it is!!! +1You're in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members slsuby Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 Now tapp dat ass!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members biscoholic Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 right on!! Now is the time that you will be establishing everything with her. whatever you do, give her the perception that YOU are too busy for HER. Since you didn't set anything up today, you are now in a situation where you need to ask her out again. DO NOT sound too eager. Girls can sense that a mile away. Confidence and an aloof attitude goes a long way. Most women (especially hot ones) are used to having their butt's kissed and are generally hit on on a daily basis; so telling them how beautiful they are and constantly complimenting them often times gets you nowhere. It sounds wierd, but you have to act like you just don't care. I don't want to come across like i am some ladies man or anything, its just that i have been burned before and learned the game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members VSpaceBoy Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 AWESOME!! Originally posted by biscoholic right on!! Now is the time that you will be establishing everything with her. whatever you do, give her the perception that YOU are too busy for HER. Since you didn't set anything up today, you are now in a situation where you need to ask her out again. DO NOT sound too eager. Girls can sense that a mile away. Confidence and an aloof attitude goes a long way. Most women (especially hot ones) are used to having their butt's kissed and are generally hit on on a daily basis; so telling them how beautiful they are and constantly complimenting them often times gets you nowhere. It sounds wierd, but you have to act like you just don't care. I don't want to come across like i am some ladies man or anything, its just that i have been burned before and learned the game. I agree to an extent but if it was me? I think the play would be to hang back until she comes to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members biscoholic Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 http://www.laddertheory.com/ here is another way of looking at it. she already knows "how far" she will go with you or if you are in the "friend zone" or not. the trick is to discover where you are, recognize it, and either go for it, or bail out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members bassment zombie Posted October 19, 2005 Members Share Posted October 19, 2005 I paged her last night Hmm...could seem kinda weird to her... I did send her an email this morning asking her to stop by when she got a minute. This one, I don't like at all. It's like you're asking her to jump through the hoop for you. If you wanted to contact her via email, I think you should have typed a short email asking her to let you know when she'll be at her desk so you can pop by really quickly...something like that.The avoidance? Either it's an odd sequence of events, or she's gotten weirded out. I think you need to try to get this cleared up as soon as possible. You'll feel much better about this and yourself the sooner you approach her with this, even if you get rejected.EDIT - ahh...I see contact was finally made! Could be somewhat promising news, could be that she didn't feel she could outright say 'no'...be cool, but be direct Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.