Members tenyearsgone Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 That I want to ask out but can't because she's always busy and I don't get a chance to talk to her often. I talked to her a couple of weeks ago and but before that I had a friend of hers ask her if she would go to the movies with me or something like that and she said she would. She came in and told me her friend mentioned something to her about me liking her and it was a very cool talk. Her friend said that if it was her, she would be wondering why I haven't asked her out yet..So do you think an e-mail would work or should I page her and ask her out over the phone?I think i'm running out of time to ask before she thinks I'm a tool. Need SERIOUS opinions please. And no I don't have pics..... (but damn she's fine, wow) 1 boyfriend in her life for 16 years broke up 6 months ago.She's one of those "keep for life make her your wife" types.
Members Rowka Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Get up out of your chair.Go to her.Ask her.Do it.Or don't.It's up to you.
Members Retrovertigo Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 wherever you are right now, drop everything, find her and ask her.
Members lug Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Originally posted by Rowka Get up out of your chair. Go to her. Ask her. Do it. Or don't. It's up to you. Do it now or forever wonder what would have happened if Stu in the next cubicle hadn't asked her out first. Wait.....I SEE STU WALKING HER WAY!....RUN!
Members tenyearsgone Posted October 18, 2005 Author Members Posted October 18, 2005 No one can see this, that's the problem. Gossip central is this place's midle name. It has to be done discreetly with no one around. People will talk and I hate that {censored}.I'll page her later today and ask her then.......
Members tenyearsgone Posted October 18, 2005 Author Members Posted October 18, 2005 Originally posted by Melanie :D Damn, I was hoping to get some input from the ladies around here too... Melanie, what would YOU think?
Members SA Rios Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Who cares if people know?!!? What is this, grade school? Unless there is a rule at your work that you can't date co-workers, go for it. Do it now. Don't do it over e-mail or over the phone. Stop being a homo and do it face to face. Take her out to luch today or something. You do get lunch breaks, right?
Members NineMinuteNap Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Ask her in person. Having a friend ask her looks more tool-ish than hesitating. Confidence is key. Women can smell fear and desperation a mile away. Actually, don't ask her at all. Say something like "I'm going to go see a movie Saturday. You should join me if you aren't busy." Don't make a big deal out of it. In my (admittedly limited) experience, it works better and is less awkward for both people.
Members Retrovertigo Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Originally posted by NineMinuteNap Ask her in person.Having a friend ask her looks more tool-ish than hesitating. Confidence is key. Women can smell fear and desperation a mile away.Actually, don't ask her at all. Say something like "I'm going to go see a movie Saturday. You should join me if you aren't busy." Don't make a big deal out of it. In my (admittedly limited) experience, it works better and is less awkward for both people. +1the "So what are we doing tonight?" line has worked for me before. confidence is key
Members The Insomniac Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Walk over to her desk about 10:00. Ask her if she would like to get a bite with you at lunch. If she says yes - cool. It's not a date, it's lunch and everyone eats. If she is to busy (which is possible) ask her for a rain check.
Members zachoff Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 My opinion... Don't date girls you work with.
Members lug Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Originally posted by NineMinuteNap Ask her in person.Having a friend ask her looks more tool-ish than hesitating. http://users3.ev1.net/~woodd/ashamed.wav
Members tenyearsgone Posted October 18, 2005 Author Members Posted October 18, 2005 Originally posted by NineMinuteNap Ask her in person.Having a friend ask her looks more tool-ish than hesitating. Confidence is key. Women can smell fear and desperation a mile away.Actually, don't ask her at all. Say something like "I'm going to go see a movie Saturday. You should join me if you aren't busy." Don't make a big deal out of it. In my (admittedly limited) experience, it works better and is less awkward for both people. I'm not trying to get her friend to ask, just get a feel if she would be interested. I'm really trying to figure a way to do this cause I never see her and she's always out around work doing her job.I'll give her a call later i guess.Thanks!
Members tenyearsgone Posted October 18, 2005 Author Members Posted October 18, 2005 Originally posted by zachoff My opinion... Don't date girls you work with. I usually go this route too but since I never see her i figure it's ok. Sometimes not for weeks at a time.
Members Melanie Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Originally posted by tenyearsgone Melanie, what would YOU think? If it was me, I'd rather not be asked on the phone! Do you have any work reason to go to her desk? You could ask her then if you do.
Members burdizzos Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Don't dip your pen in the company ink. If you must, be an adult about it and take everything head on. Being anything less than completely direct only fuels rumors and makes you look like an unprofessional jackass in the workplace. Do not ask her at work. Create an opportunity away from the workplace. Be prepared for the {censored}storm that will follow. Keep your resume up to date.
Members takeout Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Asking a bunch of bass players for dating advice?
Members pbass_groovin Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 I would definitely ask her in person. Be assertive & confident. Women like that (my wife does anyway)
Members tenyearsgone Posted October 18, 2005 Author Members Posted October 18, 2005 Originally posted by takeout Asking a bunch of bass players for dating advice? Are you comparing this to like asking a car dealer for PC advise? We're all human outside of playing bass, you know...
Members beam Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 If you want to do it, do it in person.
Members T. Alan Smith Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Ask her!...face to face!! NOW!!!
Members B-Bottom Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Originally posted by Retrovertigo +1the "So what are we doing tonight?" line has worked for me before. confidence is key That's actually one of the lines that I've used. And whateveryone says about confidence is dead on
Members slsuby Posted October 18, 2005 Members Posted October 18, 2005 Don't fear the gossip, in fact the more secretive you try to be the more the buzz will resound off the cubicle walls. F those whispering lifeless deodorant absorbers, get this done. You'll only regret this if you don't try it. Good luck and by the way, TTIWWOP!!!!! It may be weird but take a picture of her saying "Yes!" to you asking her out and say you wanted to save this greatest moment of your life.
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