Members ARES Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 to buy a marshall amp which he PROMISES to pay you back by august but it's nearly november and you haven't seen a penny yet, and he asks for $100 to make his car payment, would you give it to him? because i didn't, and i just want to make sure i'm not being a dick. he's been my friend for like 10 years which is why i loaned him the marshall cash to begin with, if he was just some dude i wouldn't have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members greenshag Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 no, I wouldn't lend him the money for his car payment either...the reason, he needs to feel some hard times in order to learn about budgeting effectively... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jazz Ad Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Lending money to friends is a no-no in my books.You just don't do it, unless of course you want to lose them.That's what banks and family are for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members beam Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 If I could afford it I guess I would, though I'd be a bit hesitant. I wouldn't let him borrow anymore after that until I'd been paid back in full though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members B-Bottom Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 You'll never see that money again. Plus you'll probably lose the friendship over it. never lend friends money especially if they are musicians Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ARES Posted October 26, 2005 Author Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by B-Bottom You'll never see that money again. Plus you'll probably lose the friendship over it. never lend friends money especially if they are musicians i know. it sucks and i wish i wouldn't have done it. i guess i can always take the marshall amp back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members beam Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 I guess I'm just lucky, I've never had an issue with a friend who needed to borrow some money Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMS Author Craig Vecchione Posted October 26, 2005 CMS Author Share Posted October 26, 2005 Seriously. Take the Marshall and put it in a safe place. Give him $50. If you never see the $50 back, you know you'll never see the $1,400 either. But Marshalls are cool on a Ric's bridge pickup. Have fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gruven Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Sounds to me like you own a Marshall. At your next rehearsal seize it and tell him that when he pays you, he can have it back. I've been taken by friends before and believe that it's not a good idea to loan them substantial amounts of money. One, so called, friend still owes me $700 and now I never hear from him nor do I know where he lives. I knew him for nearly 18 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members takeout Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Let me guess - the guy always seems to have enough money for weed and beer, but doesn't have enough money to equip himself or keep his car from being repo'd. Not only should you seize the Marshall post-haste, you should probably kick him out of the band. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members bassplayer7770 Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 There's no way I would have loaned (read "given") a friend $1,400 to buy an amp. I wouldn't give him $100 for his car payment either... Somebody isn't living within their means... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMS Author Craig Vecchione Posted October 26, 2005 CMS Author Share Posted October 26, 2005 Yeah I made the mistake of selling my motorcycle to a so-called friend I worked with, and let him "owe" me about $200 of the balance. Three months later, I hadn't seen dime-1 of it and confronted him about it. "Feeding my kids comes first", was his reply. The next day he came in telling everyone that the seat, cover panels and battery had been stolen from the bike. A week later the turn signal lenses were stolen. Three weeks later, both mirrors. Imagine that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Emprov Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by Craigv Yeah I made the mistake of selling my motorcycle to a so-called friend I worked with, and let him "owe" me about $200 of the balance. Three months later, I hadn't seen dime-1 of it and confronted him about it. "Feeding my kids comes first", was his reply. The next day he came in telling everyone that the seat, cover panels and battery had been stolen from the bike. A week later the turn signal lenses were stolen. Three weeks later, both mirrors. Imagine that. That's awesome! So when were the motor, frame and wheels stolen? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members takeout Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by Craigv Yeah I made the mistake of selling my motorcycle to a so-called friend I worked with, and let him "owe" me about $200 of the balance. Three months later, I hadn't seen dime-1 of it and confronted him about it. "Feeding my kids comes first", was his reply.The next day he came in telling everyone that the seat, cover panels and battery had been stolen from the bike. A week later the turn signal lenses were stolen. Three weeks later, both mirrors.Imagine that. Wow - that really sucks. Anyone know where I could get my hands on a motorcycle battery, cheap? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mlwarriner Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 my policy is that i'll lend you money once, if i have it to lend. screw me the first time and we're done. do it right and we can talk again in the future about it... tell him you'll loan him the $$ for the car payment as soon as he pays you back for the amp. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lug Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by Jazz Ad Lending money to friends is a no-no in my books.You just don't do it, unless of course you want to lose them.That's what banks and family are for. +1, Often they end up hating you. I don't have an explination why, just have seen dozens of friendships destroyed over this issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMS Author Craig Vecchione Posted October 26, 2005 CMS Author Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by Emprov That's awesome! So when were the motor, frame and wheels stolen? That would have made it easy for him. As it was, he had the bike parked in front of his condo, and they started bitching that it was stripped and an eyesore, and would have to be removed. He had no place to take it, and his insurance covered nothing, since all he had was liability coverage. The parts just to get it running and legal cost about $250, the side covers were $150 plus painting, the seat was like another $125. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ARES Posted October 26, 2005 Author Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 craigv, that's really cool. i just wrote a rather angry email to the band about a list of {censored} pissing me off lately, including a large section about this loan crapola. i didn't send it yet, as i want to edit it while perfectly calm so as to avoid foot in mouth disease. and thanks all for sharing in my venting and bad feelings. this place rocks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members takeout Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by ARES craigv, that's really cool. i just wrote a rather angry email to the band about a list of {censored} pissing me off lately, including a large section about this loan crapola. i didn't send it yet, as i want to edit it while perfectly calm so as to avoid foot in mouth disease. and thanks all for sharing in my venting and bad feelings. this place rocks. I would recommend not doing this via email. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members The Insomniac Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Back in the 80's, our sound guy just had to have this used sound board but he didn't have the cash. He came to me and asked to borrow $500. I told him no way would I lend him any money but if the board was such a good deal I would buy it and keep it at my house. Anytime he needed it he could borrow it from me as long as he returned it after using it. If at any time he felt the need to buy it, the asking price was $500. He came up with the money after about a year and bought it from me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members greenshag Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by takeout I would recommend not doing this via email. +1...via email, your words can be greatly misunderstood...I believe this is an in-person type of thing myself... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mlwarriner Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by takeout I would recommend not doing this via email. plus the one...do it in person, preferably as you reposess the marshall my $.01, FWIW Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ARES Posted October 26, 2005 Author Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by takeout I would recommend not doing this via email. right now i'm on the fence, but in about an hour i'm probably going to agree with you. which is why i haven't sent it yet. maybe i'll print out the email and read it to them at practice tonight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members greenshag Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by ARES right now i'm on the fence, but in about an hour i'm probably going to agree with you. which is why i haven't sent it yet. maybe i'll print out the email and read it to them at practice tonight. that's fine... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Retrovertigo Posted October 26, 2005 Members Share Posted October 26, 2005 Originally posted by The Insomniac Back in the 80's, our sound guy just had to have this used sound board but he didn't have the cash. He came to me and asked to borrow $500. I told him no way would I lend him any money but if the board was such a good deal I would buy it and keep it at my house. Anytime he needed it he could borrow it from me as long as he returned it after using it. If at any time he felt the need to buy it, the asking price was $500. He came up with the money after about a year and bought it from me. Good thinkin' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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