Members chickbird Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 long story short........ I've been playing with this band for a little over a year now and its been a lot of fun. Few bar gigs and some private parties. Typical garage band!!! A few months ago my wife gave birth to our 3rd and final child(very cute little girl by the way). So I told the band I was going to take some time off. They needed to look for a new bass player because I was not sure I would be back. Well a few months have passed now and I have decided:thu:(the wife actually decided) that it would be okay for me to get back into the band. I hit the guys up and they said great.....get your ass back to practice. Needless to say they {censored} canned the other guy. Well I answered a craiglist add the other day looking for a bass player. It turns out they were the band I heard on Saturday night.....and I must say this new band is definitly better than my current band. Called them up and they have arranged for me to audition. Now here is the question........if the audition goes well and they want me to play.....How do I tell they band I'm going to bail again?
Members guitargod0dmw Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 Just say it...there is no sense beating around the bush. I know it can be an uncomfortable feeling, but you've got to do what makes you happy.
Members Rowka Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 How long have you been back with the old band?
Members georgestrings Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 In your situation, what I would do is that *if* the other band was a much better opportunity, I'd give the current band notice, but offer to fill in 'til they found a replacement - within a reasonable timeframe.... Sure, it'll be a bit taxing, but atleast you wouldn't be leaving them totally high and dry... - georgestrings
Members Roguetitan Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 can you make arrangements to practice with both bands?because you are not sure that the new band will not {censored} can you after several practices.that way your ass is covered.
Members chickbird Posted August 7, 2007 Author Members Posted August 7, 2007 yea....I could probably practice with both bands....but thats going to open another can of worms with the woman. 1 band good : 2 bands bad
Members chickbird Posted August 7, 2007 Author Members Posted August 7, 2007 one other quick note. the old band is a 25 mile ride to practice one way. And the new band about 70 miles one way
Members JRoll Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 With 3 kids and a wife, you gotta do what's best for you and what you love, as time is now more precious then ever. I was in a corporate/wedding type cover band when our 3rd child came. While the $ was really good, the leader of the band was a 1st class a-hole, and the setlists were not my cup of tea, so I gave them my notice and quit. Soon after, my good buddy on drums who initially told me about them needing a bassist, and the lead guitarist/vocalist bagged on him as well and we started our own outfit. More then 3 years later now, it's everything I ever wanted in a band and more.
Members ModmanQ6 Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 one other quick note. the old band is a 25 mile ride to practice one way. And the new band about 70 miles one way The old band would be more attractive to me due to proximity alone. 70 miles one way better be paying well... 2c
Members chickbird Posted August 7, 2007 Author Members Posted August 7, 2007 jroll.......let me tell you about the lead singer in the old band. #1 can't sing for {censored}. #2 bearly knows how to play guitar. #3 gets to f'up most of the time to remember the lyrics, always needs lyrics pages printed in front of him. modman .....As far as the cash goes....the new band would definitly pay better even tho its a longer drive. they gig couple times a month. the old band....the few gigs we've had we never get asked back. and its because the singer sucks. I've ran into different people at other bars that heard us play the they say the band was great and rocked.....but the singer is like nails on a chalk board.
Members Crescent Seven Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 The old band would be more attractive to me due to proximity alone. 70 miles one way better be paying well... 2c Word. The longest I've driven was 35 miles, into the mountains. God I wish I could have the time back from that band (Crescent Seven). All those hours driving and rehearsing 3 times a week for nothing...C7
Members mike fitzwell Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 jroll.......let me tell you about the lead singer in the old band. #1 can't sing for {censored}. #2 bearly knows how to play guitar. #3 gets to f'up most of the time to remember the lyrics, always needs lyrics pages printed in front of him. modman .....As far as the cash goes....the new band would definitly pay better even tho its a longer drive. they gig couple times a month. the old band....the few gigs we've had we never get asked back. and its because the singer sucks. I've ran into different people at other bars that heard us play the they say the band was great and rocked.....but the singer is like nails on a chalk board. I was in a band like that once. Run away from it fast. It's not worth your time. I just quit a band that required me to drive 70 miles one way to rehearsal. The drive wasn't TOO bad since it was all 4 lane interstate to and from, but it did get tiring and expensive after a while. I didn't quit because of the drive but rather the diva-ness that the chick singer started to pull on us.
Members Rowka Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 .......let me tell you about the lead singer in the old band. #1 can't sing for {censored}. #2 bearly knows how to play guitar. #3 gets to f'up most of the time to remember the lyrics, always needs lyrics pages printed in front of him. Kinda begs the question: Why did you ask to get back in?
Members JeffBass Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 rawka.....about a month You bassturd!!! How could you?!! That's likely the response you'll get from the band but I agree with "giving them a notice" thing until they land a new guy. They may just get mad and dump you.
Members Crescent Seven Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 jroll.......let me tell you about the lead singer in the old band. #1 can't sing for {censored}......... #3 gets to f'up most of the time to remember the lyrics, always needs lyrics pages printed in front of him. This is our old lead singer, he could have been good if he practiced but whiskey got in his way. He brought a music stand to our first two gigs, it was embarrassing. We told him to memorize the damn lyrics that HE wrote, so he put together a cheat sheet and put it on the monitor. Except that since he was 6'4", he couldn't read it, so he'd blow through the start of the verses because he was hunched down trying to read. We have a DVD of the last gig he played with us, we thought it was fine while we were playing, but when we watched the DVD, it was a train wreck on his part. My advice is, if you're going to take time away from your family for music, make it worth it. You'll regret sticking around in a situation that you know isn't going anywhere.C7
Members tylytle Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 ./ Snippage/My advice is, if you're going to take time away from your family for music, make it worth it. You'll regret sticking around in a situation that you know isn't going anywhere.C7 what he said! ^^
Members misterhinkydink Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 I'd stay in the old band and concurrently find/form another better band closer to home.
Members chickbird Posted August 7, 2007 Author Members Posted August 7, 2007 Rawka.........regardless of the singers singing ability....its still fun to get together and jam.
Members chickbird Posted August 7, 2007 Author Members Posted August 7, 2007 My advice is, if you're going to take time away from your family for music, make it worth it. You'll regret sticking around in a situation that you know isn't going anywhere. C7.....thats the best advice yet......thanks
Members rpsands Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 Is the old band made up of your friends, or just some guys you play music with? With a wife, job, and kids, your priorities probably need to be relaxation and fun for music, not treating it like a job. Play with the people you enjoy playing with and spending time with, imho. If you're wanting to try to make money and be a pro musician or whatever, go for the new band - but think really hard about whether spending time with your pals playing music is what you're after, or just playing music.
Members Rowka Posted August 7, 2007 Members Posted August 7, 2007 To me, the fact that you even answered the CL ad (after getting back in the old band) speaks volumes that should not be ignored.
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