Members bleepo Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 Tonight my mom was sent to a hospice for her final days. A few years ago her liver failed, and then her kidneys followed suit. Today her home care nurse informed us that her suffering was beyond treatment, and that she should be taken to the hospital. She had told her doctors that once they can't do anything for her, they should let her die. That day finally came today. She is unable to eat, and all kidney treatment has been halted. It's just a matter of whether her body poisons itself, she starves, or her body just gives up. I'm not sure why I typed that, but I think it helped make me feel better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Anesthesia Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 That sucks man i can't imagine what it's like to lose a parent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Members bleepo Posted November 7, 2007 Author Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 ...Yea, I have no idea what i'm doing at home. I should be at the hospice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Westsailor Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 That sucks man i can't imagine what it's like to lose a parent It sucks big time. I lost both my parents within 30 days of each other. Spend as much time & love with them as you can while you can. They've been with you all your life so it seems like they'll be around forever. They won't. My sincere condolences Bleepo... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Wanderlusterer Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 ...Yea, I have no idea what i'm doing at home. I should be at the hospice. Maybe you just need some time to yourself? I used to deliver to a hospice daily for months, the staff was so nice treating the people. I don't know how they did it. My grandmother passed away 11 years ago, after being on kidney dialysis for about 5 years. She probably would have stayed with us for a while longer but lost her will to live. Shortly before she died, my Grandfather just forgot to wake up one day after going through the final stages of Alzheimer's. They were married for 57 years. Regards to you and yours and may she suffer as little as possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mike fitzwell Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Super Bass Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 I'm sorry to hear of this bleepo, I hope that your Mom's last moments are as peaceful as possible. Mucho mojo to you and yours! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members bassesofalessergod Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 don't know what to say bleeps..... all i know is you're an ace dude and i'm sure you mom is the largest part of that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nicebigstrings Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 You've got all the positive mojo I can send. So sorry to hear this; I can't imagine what you're going through. Wishing you love and courage in the days ahead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members bassman1956 Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 So sorry to hear that bleepo. My mom passed a year ago, ulcerated colon, nothing they could do. She chose hospice at home, in her bed. I was able to be there for her, as we all were and took turns. Whatever you do, don't blame yourself, and don't forget to take care of yourself. You need breaks, food, showers, sleep, or you will be shot before she's gone. Best of mojo to you buds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members max maroon Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 My thoughts are with you Bleepo, take care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members The Insomniac Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 Best wishes to you. I've lost both my parents so I understand some of what you are going through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ezstep Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members boogiebassbill Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 that sucks my friend........just make sure shes not in pain........and tell her how much you love her........I'll say a prayer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mytola Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 Sorry to hear that man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members t3ch Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 That sucks man i can't imagine what it's like to lose a parent yep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members fretless Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 And when the earth shall claim yourlimbs, then shall you truly dance. Kahlil Gibran thoughts and prayers to you and your family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members allan grossman Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 blessings to you and yours, bleepo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members guitargod0dmw Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 All the mojo on the way! I'm sorry to hear that. It's a very tough thing to go through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Fran da Man Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 Sorry to hear that man. The same thing happened to my Mom a little over a year ago. Drop what you're doing and go to her bedside, let her know you're there, you love her and that it's OK to let go and everyone will be fine. Telling her it's ok to die may sound cruel, but having watched both my Parents die you'll be surprised at how peaceful everything will become when those words are said. To me, the whole atmosphere of the room changed. You really don't know if they're hanging on to not upset the Family or not, so letting them know it's ok just may be what they need to hear. Peace my man, from someone who knows. Franny Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members PaulyWally Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 That's rough, man. Sending all the love and positive vibes I've got. Anytime you need to vent, you know we're good for that here. Not like those tools over in the guitard forum who keep soloing while you're trying to say something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nicebigstrings Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 Sorry to hear that man. The same thing happened to my Mom a little over a year ago. Drop what you're doing and go to her bedside, let her know you're there, you love her and that it's OK to let go and everyone will be fine.Telling her it's ok to die may sound cruel, but having watched both my Parents die you'll be surprised at how peaceful everything will become when those words are said. To me, the whole atmosphere of the room changed. You really don't know if they're hanging on to not upset the Family or not, so letting them know it's ok just may be what they need to hear.Peace my man, from someone who knows.Franny Very wise words. Good on ya Fran. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Emprov Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 I'm so sorry to hear that. Prayers and mojo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members T. Alan Smith Posted November 7, 2007 Members Share Posted November 7, 2007 That's rough. My prayers for strength and spiritual direction go out to you bro. Be strong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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