Members Chris1256 Posted August 26, 2005 Members Share Posted August 26, 2005 I just had a great argument with our other guitarist.Was over a bob dylan song.We were almost fighting.It has been one of very many arguments.Is this normal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lee Flier Posted August 26, 2005 Members Share Posted August 26, 2005 "Normal" in that it happens in a lot of bands, yes. "Normal" as in "OK" - maybe, maybe not. Is this something that happens in your band a lot and it's more or less understood that your creative fires are fueled by arguing? That you appreciate each other's passion about the music? Or is it a fairly recent thing? If so, then you might be arguing about a Bob Dylan song in order to mask the fact that you've got some other issue that needs addressing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members fastplant Posted August 26, 2005 Members Share Posted August 26, 2005 I've never been in a band that didn't fight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ratthedd Posted August 26, 2005 Members Share Posted August 26, 2005 Fighting about a Bob Dylan song is kind of like screwing for virginity, isn't it? Wasn't Bob involved with the whole peace movement back in the '60s? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lee Flier Posted August 26, 2005 Members Share Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by ratthedd Fighting about a Bob Dylan song is kind of like screwing for virginity, isn't it? Wasn't Bob involved with the whole peace movement back in the '60s? LOL yeah but he sure does like to argue and instigate himself! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members rock drummer Posted August 26, 2005 Members Share Posted August 26, 2005 Axl and Slash do I need to come over there and put you in time out? Well do I???????????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members numrologst Posted August 27, 2005 Members Share Posted August 27, 2005 Arguing is normal and healthy about small issues such as that. About bigger issues may become a bigger problem. Disagreements are natural and healthy. But when it starts affecting the music, quality, atmosphere, dynamics, then it is a problem. Then people start being passive aggressive. Things are held inside and when you go on tour it explodes, people start playing {censored}ty and messing up on purpose. Then you temporarily work things out to finish the tour positive. Then when you are back to normal life, someone quits, then comes back and is unhappy. The music suffers. You start delaying the inevitable, and then you have meltdown. This happens, and alot of times works out for the better. Everyone survives, and this is when good/bad changes happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members superiorparts Posted August 27, 2005 Members Share Posted August 27, 2005 i believe all bands argue. our lead singer/guitar player got in an argument the other night because the whole band was loading gear (it was 3:00 a.m.) and he was sitting in a car trying to get laid. it justs turns out i was right he was wrong. i still love him. no love lost between us. the next night he was a gear loading s.o.b. he just let his other brain get in the way of the other things around him. if an argument has to come to blows then somebody needs to go. kevin james www.monkeyboneband.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members GZsound Posted August 27, 2005 Members Share Posted August 27, 2005 I have a theory that has worked well for many years and in fact just came in handy at a rehearsal the other night. Any time an argument starts over a song, the structure, ending, etc. I constantly remind myself that whoever is not agreeing with me (our drummer in this case) has spent countless hours doing songs I have suggested, and doing them the way I have suggested. Therefore, I realize it is not a big deal for me to back down and do what he wants for four minutes of my musical life. As soon as he said he didn't like what I sas suggesting, I asked him what he wanted and we did it his way..no big deal. Sometimes you have to pick your battles and arguing over a song is exceedingly dumb. In a couple of years, you may not even remember the song. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lewie Posted August 28, 2005 Members Share Posted August 28, 2005 Originally posted by fastplant I've never been in a band that didn't fight. That suggests that you`ve been in a lot of bands, maybe this is because they were all fighting and split up as a result, maybe if you had got into a band that didnt fight you would have been together for years and years and enjoyed reasonable success. just a thought. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garyd Posted August 28, 2005 Members Share Posted August 28, 2005 Depends if there is animosity when you argue. If you really start pissing each other off then it is a problem, but if you are both cool-headed then it could simply be classed as a 'heated debate'. I've been lucky: the band I fronted a few years back were not only a great act in their time, but we rarely argued, and when we did it was generally me having 'lead singer / guitarist ego syndrome'. I was usually put in my place well by our tactful drummer. Not surprising, considering his six foot eight height and brick-{censored}house build. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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