Wives and Girlfriends at shows?

[brassic]

Johnny from ATP sounds like a wanker.

I bet if a good number of the above list was done by someone who was not a band girlfriend (like being a walking billboard for his band, standing and staring like he's the greatest thing ever, etc) he'd be creaming himself with joy.

[GOSG]

Originally posted by brassic You're well within your rights to be grumpy if anyone does any of that. My ex is an engineer (studio, but does plenty of live as well) and some of his rants about know-it-all audience members make my toes curl. I always make a point of introducing myself / saying thank you afterwards, but like in any other job, sometimes you get someone who just can't be arsed.

 

 

Thanks for the positive comment! Anybody who spends anything behind a console has to fight the urge to turn to the "Dark Side"! LOL!

 

Bravo to you making the attempt to be civil, if more folks followed your example (Musicians & techs) then both would realize each benefits from a "team" approach to this business; rather than making a show adversarial event!

 

Of course then I would be forced to change my screen name...hmmm "OSG"....although that dosen't have the same ring to it! But maybe if I worked with more artists such as yourself...and Squealie, Spacedcowboy & THX1138! Until then I remain "GOSG".

[GOSG]

[ quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Originally posted by GOSG 1. Thinks that I'm the DJ (first mistake) and proceeds to scream requests for whatever "line-dance" song that they want to hear. (i.e. "The Electric Slide", "Macarena", etc....) (Second mistake would be that even if I'm playing change-over or break music to assume that I would possibly have any tracks of that nature in my collections...that is what a DJ is for...if the venue didn't care enough to provide a DJ...I'm certainly not going to invest my time and money in fulfilling the "cattle's requests"!) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Sorry, I apologize Pssst...you have one in your collection though... NO!!! SAY IT'S NOT SO....Tell me its location so it may be destroyed! Are you sure you are not thinking about "Dave's" or a "Rude Puppies" CDs? quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 4. Try to have long conversations with me while I'm mixing. I'm pretty good a multi-tasking, but my ears are a bit busy during a show...make it quick if it is REALLY that important! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Sorry, I apologize Accepted. quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- All being said, I never mind having the BF/GF's hang out at the console area as long as they don't stand directly behind me a hold lengthy conversations at a a volume equal to the artist! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Sorry, I apologize Accepted! Although I have no objection to being surrounded by good looking women, I'm still fussy about doing my job. quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- End of rant. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- End of apology...now everybody "clap clap clap clap your hands..." Love ya...mean it! __________________ "We are not Groupies. We are here because of the music, we inspire the music. We are Band Aids."- Penny Lane, Almost Famous http://www.roanoke.com/entertainment/insideout/ http://bndgrl.blogspot.com http://www.myspace.com/morristk

 

[GOSG]

Originally posted by NoVaTa2iSt Just got this list, Johnny from ATP posted it on myspace. -Don't try to be the "manager", do not get involved with band business, that is for the band. -Don't ask his bandmates for relationship advice. -Do Not complain when your (insert holiday here) date gets cancelled because a show has been scheduled. Holidays are no longer yours. Even Valentines Day! ***-It's NOT mandatory that you are at every show.*** -Do not get jelous when your boyfriend talks to groupies. They are the one's buying the CDs and merch, not you, so let them have their time. And remember...you get to go home with him! -Babies don't make men quit bands....especially if you were a groupie. -No, the band does not want you to go on tour with them. Like your going to sleep in the back of a van and eat ramen for 4 months strait!? -Don't make the following introduction: Hi! I'm _____. My boyfriend is in ______. -Don't follow him around at shows like a lost puppy, he is taking care of business, find your own crowd. -Don't go to band practice. And it's normal to have practice more than once a week. -Do not assume everyone loves your boyfriend's band. -Don't make out with other band members girlfriends at the bar. Save that for the after party. -Don't turn yourself into a walking flyer for your boyfriend's band. The shirt is fine, but must you break out the hat, the hoodie, AND the stickers on your ass? -Do not stand in front of your boyfriend while he is onstage and stare at him like he is the greatest singer in thew world. -No rumpshaka dances during the show, that is unless your man is in 2 Live Crew. -Do not change your style based on the type of band you date. Going from preppy to Nu to hardcore shows you are not your own individual. -If he calls while out on the road, don't complain about when he is coming home. You're lucky he is using the quarter to call you, instead of buying gas or food. -Never say anything negative about your man's band that you cannot say to him. It will only come back to bite you in the ass. -If your a stripper, keep work on the pole, not at shows. Not everyone wants to know Victoria's Secret. -Never cause a fight right before your man goes on stage. Relationship problems can be dealt with after the show. -If they have a show out of town, don't drive just so you and your boy can have "alone time". Because you want to "talk". -Don't buy your man a new intrument so he and his band mates can match. It's metal core, not fashion core. -You cannot drink on the band's tab! Buy your own! -Keep the band seperate from your everyday life. That's your boyfriend's passion, find your own

 

 

 

Great List...there are a few items I disagree with...however after spending 28 years in the biz. I've seen examples of most all, however so many headaches could be avoided if "new band couples" just talked to each other, before problems arose.

 

But then again verbal communication is often a low priority when our testosterone starts flowing! LOL!

[BndGrl]

Originally posted by GOSG NO!!! SAY IT'S NOT SO....Tell me its location so it may be destroyed! Are you sure you are not thinking about "Dave's" or a "Rude Puppies" CDs?

Oh you're right , my bad. I keep forgetting that someone else is back there near you when you are with that other band. Sorry, "Dave".

I used to have this great picture of you with a sign that said "I am NOT the DJ" that just cracked me up. I always felt like you were really trying to say "NO, It's not me playing Milli Vanilli!"

[SpacedCowboy]

After viewing the various responses to this thread, let's just say that GOSG in particular can vouch for me when I say that I have had more than my share of bad experiences with girlfriends freaking out at the shows...which makes my experiences with my current girlfriend a godsend.

That said, she IS an actress, and there have been more than a few occaisions that I've sat in a theatre and watched her being kissed onstage by another actor, and there are few feelings that are weirder than being witness to that. But it's part of the performance, so it doesn't bother me when I put it in that perspective.

And I think that's the thing that makes her so understanding about me talking to or acknowledging female audience members whether onstage or on breaks...she knows what it's like on the other side of that coin and knows "it's all part of the performance".

With my past two significant others, I wasn't so lucky.

[Toast]

Here's to our wives and girlfriends. May they never meet.

[BndGrl]

Originally posted by SpacedCowboy my current girlfriend a godsend.

 

 

+1Billion!!!

 

 

I always, always give major props to Band Wives/Girlfriends/Husbands/Boyfriends. It's so difficult to be one.

 

It's so hard to have your significant other gone every weekend, out until 3 or 4 in the mornin where there is usually alcohol flowing freely, temptations at every corner.

 

I'll never do it again.

[GOSG]

Originally posted by SpacedCowboy After viewing the various responses to this thread, let's just say that GOSG in particular can vouch for me when I say that I have had more than my share of bad experiences with girlfriends freaking out at the shows...which makes my experiences with my current girlfriend a godsend. That said, she IS an actress, and there have been more than a few occaisions that I've sat in a theatre and watched her being kissed onstage by another actor, and there are few feelings that are weirder than being witness to that. But it's part of the performance, so it doesn't bother me when I put it in that perspective. And I think that's the thing that makes her so understanding about me talking to or acknowledging female audience members whether onstage or on breaks...she knows what it's like on the other side of that coin and knows "it's all part of the performance". With my past two significant others, I wasn't so lucky.

Of course the fact that your new g/f is smarter, more mature, and hotter (she actually has a personality to go with her looks!) than all the previous "Spacedcowgirls" combined...certainly reduces the chance for unwanted drama!

[SpacedCowboy]

Originally posted by GOSG Of course the fact that your new g/f is smarter, more mature, and hotter (she actually has a personality to go with her looks!) than all the previous "Spacedcowgirls" combined...certainly reduces the chance for unwanted drama!

Agreed, old friend.

[XamendedX]

if the wife wants to go, then she goes...but I know she doesn't really like the kind of music I play so it doesn't bother me...she still supports me by buying me guitars, amps, pedals, etc... so its cool

[d. gauss]

nah, but my mom comes to every gig. she's good that way. says things like, "see that girl over there? i bet she'll bang you til yer sore and can't take no more." thanks mom.

-d. gauss

[elsongs]

I find wives/girlfriends/S.O.s going to rehearsals massively annoying...I mean, in my experience, they're either standing there, doing nothing, or think they have authority in the band and offer input (of course, if this person was officially designated as the band's manager or producer, I wouldn't have a problem with that).

The only exception is if any of them is an actual member of the band, of course (in my band, my male and female backup singers are an engaged couple, and both are good friends of mine anyway).

But wives/girlfriends/S.O.s who come to shows are not a problem. In fact, they can be of use and help out...my bassist's girlfriend is a drummer for another band, and it's great when she comes to see us play, she helps my drummer set up and break down his kit.

[wearywashburn]

In a previous band I was in, our singer would occasionally point out his girlfriend and say things like,

[vanlatte]

Originally posted by elsongs I find wives/girlfriends/S.O.s going to rehearsals massively annoying...I mean, in my experience, they're either standing there, doing nothing, or think they have authority in the band and offer input (of course, if this person was officially designated as the band's manager or producer, I wouldn't have a problem with that). The only exception is if any of them is an actual member of the band, of course (in my band, my male and female backup singers are an engaged couple, and both are good friends of mine anyway). But wives/girlfriends/S.O.s who come to shows are not a problem. In fact, they can be of use and help out...my bassist's girlfriend is a drummer for another band, and it's great when she comes to see us play, she helps my drummer set up and break down his kit.

 

 

I think *anyone* who comes to rehersals is massivly annoying; as soon as there is an audiance the whole vibe shifts from working on the music to performing, and thats not always a good thing.

[MrKnobs]

Originally posted by vanlatte I think *anyone* who comes to rehersals is massivly annoying; as soon as there is an audiance the whole vibe shifts from working on the music to performing, and thats not always a good thing.

 

 

That's the problem right there.

 

Terry D.

[THB]

Originally posted by vanlatte I think *anyone* who comes to rehersals is massivly annoying; as soon as there is an audiance the whole vibe shifts from working on the music to performing, and thats not always a good thing.

I agree totally, and was very concerned about this because we just started having our weekly practice at the home of someone who, while we all really like them, is not in the band. It went very well with a couple extra people there. As long as we're not interrupted with questions and comments and such, I think we can continue.

[vanlatte]

Originally posted by MrKnobs That's the problem right there. Terry D.

EDIT: whups I get it now