Members Lanefair Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 The inevitable has happened. I thought I'd covered all bases and got the time off to go away with my lady (i kind of promised), but it turns out the band booked a well paying cover gig AND put us in a fairly high profile battle of the bands. This last one is a pain because it's quite important and I kind of agreed to do the date ages ago and forgot about it and no one confirmed we were actually doing it. Anyway the band's pissed, my lady is pissed. Whatever I decide to do someones going to be pissed (all the dates are non negotiable) Shall I just stay home and play the blues? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members preservation Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 if you're at all serious about her...i mean if you think she's keeper material you might want to let her know how important these gigs are to you- hopefully she'll understand and you can make it up to her. hopefully your band will understand that your lady friend is important to you, but i believe they'll be a bit less forgiving... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members alteredsounds Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 Bunch of Roses for the gf and do the gigs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lanefair Posted June 8, 2006 Author Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 It's kind of my fault for saying I had the time free, and not entirely booking the time off with the band. BUT - We hadn't actually got round to booking the holiday, so nothing's lost in that sense. ALSO - I've never had to cancel a gig with the band in over 2 years, I kinda feel like I'm entitled to make an exception. The jury's out on which one I'm more devoted to at the moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DICKTRON Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 If'n you decide on missing the two gigs, you girlfriend owes you a threesome. Two gigs, or two girls?????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members t_e_l_e Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 if you haven't booked the holiday, why can't you reschedule it? all in all its a tough question, with my girlfriend it would be clear to do the gigs and doing the holidays afterwards, but thats mine, and i'm an organisational genie so i almost can schedule everything at least two months ahead and/or can reschedule most things at the last minute *grin* on the other hand, a girl friend has a place in your life, and also a band has a place in your life, if they both fight for the same, i think the girlfriend will always lose, cause if she can't live with the band i can't live with her. on the other hand i would not do everything for the band, but if those are really important gigs for the band and for yourself, i think your gf should it understand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members aeroslepperin Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 how many days did you take off? why not rearrange with your job the amount of days you took off...meaning, take the minimum amount of days needed for the 2 shows (if any at all) and push back the vacation a little... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gorgon90 Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 Originally posted by DICKTRON If'n you decide on missing the two gigs, you girlfriend owes you a threesome.Two gigs, or two girls?????? LMAO Great idea but I doubt you'd get it. Grovel and promise her you'll make it up to her and do the gigs. After all, your take from the cover gig could help fund a better holiday, while if the battle of the bands gets you more work then that's more money coming in to treat her right with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sir_Les Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 If you haven't booked the holiday, I'd say do the gigs. If you had of booked it then I'd say go with your girlfriend. She'll get over it mate.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TrashFace Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 the band should be your wife. I mean life? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members zhivago Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 I'd say do the gigs...re-schedule the holiday for the day after the second gig and extend the said holiday by 7 days....also, do not have any alcohol at the gigs, to show to her that it's something important to you, and that you have to be focused.women LOVE pampering....she'll be totaly up for waiting in order to get more time chilling out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Remedy Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 gigs.surely, your woman would understand its important to you, shes not that selfish is she? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mumford Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 "So, shall we go to the Wincester, then?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TaronKeim Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 Originally posted by mumford "So, shall we go to the Wincester, then?" NOICE! -TJK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Shreksballs Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 give her all the money you make on the gig. every new year's eve I have to gig and I can't be with wife so I give her the money and she's happy. It's worth it to keep the peace with everyone, she would have gotten the money anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SpectralJulian Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 Rock and Ro' over da Ho! She should be supportive of you and come to your gigs anyways. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nedsteve Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 Take her on holiday TO the gigs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members KBN Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 Piss off one person, or piss off a bunch of people? Do the gigs and then take dancing lessons or something with the lady. Its a lot easier to kiss one person's ass than to kiss a collective ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members houseofglass21 Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 If someone in my band was in that sort of situation I'd tell them to either do the gigs or get replaced. It just depends on the type of band you are. If it's a hobby thing then maybe the gigs aren't that important anyway. If you're a serious band trying to be successful then sacrifices are going to have to be made for the benefit of the group. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Roy Brooks Posted June 8, 2006 Members Share Posted June 8, 2006 I'd take a nice vacation over a cover band gig and a battle of the bands. Though I'd be more likely to take the gig if I was going to be making a whole {censored}load of money and/or I was playing what I really like playing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members geoffo Posted June 9, 2006 Members Share Posted June 9, 2006 Ive been in this situation once before as well. In the end, although it cost a fortune I had to fly back from my holiday (an hours flight) to do the gig, then fly back the next morning. Sure it cost me a small fortune, but it kept everybody happy and the flights were tax deductable anyway, so in the end I got my money back, and the taxman got screwed. It all worked out good... I got a holiday with my wife I got to gig with the band The Taxman got screwed for the airfare so we all did ok:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Pigglesworth Posted June 9, 2006 Members Share Posted June 9, 2006 How were the flights tax deductible? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Esperanto Posted June 9, 2006 Members Share Posted June 9, 2006 We must see the girlfriend pics...before making a proper decision:p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members joncyberboy Posted June 9, 2006 Members Share Posted June 9, 2006 Do the gigs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DEICIDEL Posted June 16, 2006 Members Share Posted June 16, 2006 "money can be exchangedfor goods and services...."Use gig money to make the vacation better!! and pamper her in the process to cover up and she'll forget/forgive you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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