I'm alive today thanks to a donor (liver)...lots of mojo and love to everyone who marks themselves as a donor on their licenses.
In England you have to mark that you do not want to be a donor, or you are automatically one, I wish they would cosider this in the USA.
Really sorry to hear about this TUBE, best of luck. Keep close to your friends and try to avoid all the crazy advice you'll be getting from well meaning folks. Do what's best for your kids and you'll find a way. God bless you and your family.