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If you are ok with being dishonest with people, selling them a car you KNOW they can't afford and working from 7am to 9pm at least 6 days a week then go for it.

I sitll love metal but I grew tired of the new stuff coming out. Everyone was just trying to be more extreme than everybody else. It got old quickly.

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+10000 Despite all this tramp has put you through I'm surprised you haven't gotten a lawyer a long time ago. I really hope things work out....this is not a good situation for anyone but her. Dude, I've HAD a lawyer. I filed for the big D when I still lived in Forth Worth. All we were waiting on was for her to sign the papers saying it is gonna be an "uncontested" divorce, which she has informed me she has done now (8 months later:rolleyes:). So now we can get this marriage over with and get on with our lives.

Well thats some good news!!! I was thinking that would probably be the deal. At the same time, what kind of woman with two small younguns wants to join the damn navy? I mean, I appreciate wanting to serve your country but... I'm convinced she doesn't have the ability to think things through thoroughly before making decisions. It was a selfish thing to consider in the first place.

awesome dude Congrats glad to hear the kids are staying close to you. For now. She claims that she wants to find another job and that her MBA isn't much good in SA (which is a load of crap). She wants to move eventually, but the decree WILL contain a "restrictive domicile" clause for sure.

Big +1 Yes, when I get home from work this afternoon, I will go through and delete all my posts of that nature.

Talked to the soon to be ex this morn. It seems her "lawyer" has told her if she joins the military she has virtually NO chance of getting the kids. So....she has decided to stick with the original plan of joint custody and an "uncontested" divorce. Imagine that. :poke:

The thing that pisses me off the most is that the fate of my relationship with my kids is gonna be up to two bickering, snaked tongue lawyers and possibly even a judge later on. At first, it was gonna be joint custody and now it has turned into this.

how old is she? She's 27 and says she needs to join before she turns 28 in January, so she's all "quick fast and in a hurry" to do this.

This is similar to what I was going to say after reading your initial post. But...she could try to pull some dirt on you to win custody. Careful what you post on the internet bro, those could be used against you...especially that myspace {censored}. I'm speaking from experience in what happened in my divorce. My Ex got our daughter and lives in NM, while I have my life in AZ. Last time I saw my oldest daughter was at July 4th holiday...it really sucks because she's only 7 years old and I've already been without her for 3 years. I see her about 3-4 times a year and she cries for me every {censored}in' time I have to say Goodbye to her. Some of the stuff you post makes me feel for you bro...I've been there. Good luck to you, and much mojo sent! Funny you mention that, when she was leaving to SA every weekend from Fort Worth to party, she left her myspace account logged in and I got about 6 pages worth (printed out) of her talking about how much she was partying and saying things like, "yeah, I'm married but free of the spoils of a ball and chain". So yeah, I know all about that.

if people are logical. They would grant you custody since you could provide the children with more stability by not moving every year or 2. That's what I'm thinking. Plus all the crap I have on her not visiting the kids too often etc.

At least she is doing whats best for the kids... Doesn't she realize tearing her kids away from their father and dragging them around from town to town away from friends and such not only screws up the whole school thing, but emotionally as well? You better win this. And she seems like an idiot; I know LOTS of kids whose parents are divorced, the ones that don't seem to affected are the ones whose parents cooperate, the ones that seemed messed up by it are the ones whose parents pull stupid {censored} and power trips and whatnot. See, she thinks she IS doing what's best for the kids. That's the {censored}ed up part. She's like, "Benefits, health care" etc. And YES, she is VERY selfish. I honestly don't think she can win this custody battle. I have record of everytime she's actually visited the kids and it doesn't look too good. PLUS, I have written record of everytime she's "said" she was going to visit them ONLY to disappoint them by either not showing up at all or calling to say she can't make it.

Well, I just talked to one of my best friends who is in the Navy. His advice was to let her join. He said to even NOT get a divorce. The AF is deploying EVERYBODY who is new to Iraq right now he told me. The government would be paying me for living expenses while she is there. But if I do get the divorce, no judge in his right mind is gonna make the kids travel the country when they could have a STEADY home, school, friends etc. He also told me (having known my ex) that she will not be able to hack it in AF. He said that with her mental capacity, they will break her like a twig during her training. She has her Masters in Business and she will go in as an officer, but she will be pushing papers in Iraq most likely. So, I'll get my kids anyway.

I know enough to know that you my friend, need to talk to someone face to face, a shrink, whoever i don't give a {censored}, but involve forumites? Why? whats the point? so they can bestow you with meaningless pats on the back and "mojo" it is unfortunate that you are in a fix like this. Not HC's job to comfort you. this is an amp forum. What the {censored} do you know about HCAF you little bitch? You have 135 posts. And if you think this is just an amp forum then you are sadly mistaken. I have met many friends on here who will be friends for life. Whatever. This is the last I'm saying to you. If you wanna discuss this "face to face" then get your mommy to buy you a plane ticket to Texas and PM me when you get here.