Members billperz Posted January 31, 2019 Members Share Posted January 31, 2019 I feel terrible. I’ve been playing with my partner for a year or so but it’s starting to wear on me. Don’t misunderstand me his heart is huge and you’re hard pressed to try and not like him. Problem is that he never practices, makes no attempt to polish his playing, refuses to try and become proficient with the digital world and has zero ability to play a song using the proper rhythm and vocal timing. But he’s a wonderful person. I’ve no aspirations of achieving any sort of success as a musician. This is something that I do for enjoyment. Fact is, I find myself not having any fun. Thoughts or advice from all of you would be wonderful and respected. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members steve mac Posted January 31, 2019 Members Share Posted January 31, 2019 Can you not just have them as a friend? Find another musical partner or buy a looper? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Notes_Norton Posted January 31, 2019 Members Share Posted January 31, 2019 I agree with Steve. Keep him as a friend and find someone else to jam with. If he gets offended finding out you are jamming with someone else, let him know why and let him know it's musical and not personal. Insights and incites by Notes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bob Dey Posted January 31, 2019 Members Share Posted January 31, 2019 It's hard to tell it like it is with someone that's so nice. Does anyone have band meetings anymore? Maybe he also has things to get off his chest. Either get some communication going or make another plan. If he just doesn't have the ability to improve, take Steve's and Note's advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators daddymack Posted January 31, 2019 Moderators Share Posted January 31, 2019 Before you go overboard...have you had an open discussion with your partner regarding these issues? There should be a way of doing that without it getting rancorous... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members billperz Posted February 2, 2019 Author Members Share Posted February 2, 2019 All of your responses are greatly appreciated for sure. I’m going to go with Daddymacks advice and sit him down and establish some goals he/we should be aiming for. Again I’m not in this to achieve success as a musician ie...going out and performing. I just need to step back and put things into perspective. Call me soft but I really like the guy and don’t want to make things awkward. On a positive note he makes my playing sound fantastic!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators daddymack Posted February 2, 2019 Moderators Share Posted February 2, 2019 Please report back.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Shaster Posted February 4, 2019 Members Share Posted February 4, 2019 I suggest that you video your performances and/or jams. You can make up some story about promo or whatever. From the recordings, you might be able to see what needs to be improved, perhaps on both of your parts. Funny thing about recordings though, they don't always tell the whole story. things that were awful while performing might go unnoticed after the fact. Kind of like a difficult paint job might look the same as a paint job that waseasy. I'm with daddymack though. Take it slow. Unless the venues or agents are complaining, you can afford to take your time and hopefully sort things out in an amicable fashion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pogo97 Posted June 1, 2019 Members Share Posted June 1, 2019 In my little world, there are two kinds of musicians: the ones who are still improving through practice and the ones who don't know why they'd need to. Dunning–Kruger effect effect in the arts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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