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01-18-2013 09:55 AM - edited 01-18-2013 09:57 AM
SpaceNorman wrote:I understand your point - and agree 100% that nobody should be controlled by another.
However, when you express it in the manner you have - how do you reconcile the "I do whatever the hell I want" with the "...that's not a relationship, it's a dictatorship" comment?
If my wife took the "I do whatever the hell I want. If he give me any lip, he's welcome to leave" approach - I'd certainly view THAT as dictatorial in it's own right.
Yeah, I may have come off harsh there, but this is a topic that drives me nuts. I've dealt with controlling women my whole life, and when I finally stood up and declared my independence of individuality, it was the most gratifying and refreshing experiences in my life, and I'm never, ever, going to allow a woman to dictate how I run what I consider to be "my" life.
My philosophy since then has been that yes, people get married, they join their lives together, but the individuals never died- your wife is PART of your life, and if you find the balance between your life and your life together is not even, then you are no longer having a life, you are living as a servant and a slave to her dictatorship. It's a partnership. One that shouldn't seek to control or dominate you.
It's also a given, that I'm pretty intolerant of BS from women anymore. I don't like the head games, tests, and passive aggressive **bleep** (OMG they bleeped the work C R A P !) they dish out on a daily basis. I know many women who agree, and tell me how much they are'nt like other women, and I know... yes- they are. I can count on one hand how many women I know personally who don't fall into that category. They are a very rare exception to the general rule.
I'm not bitter Just a well-informed, cynical realist.
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