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Originally posted by MrKnobs Pebble & I played a show last night and I had what I think some of you would call a "groupie" experience. Before I relate that, I think it would be interesting to know what exactly most of you believe "groupie" means. For example, what distinguishes a groupie from an ordinary girl. Performing on a stage makes you a public figure. You are, for a little while at least, the center of attention. Ordinarily, people will either not bother you in your job, or they may approach you casually to remark on the set you did, maybe ask more detail about a song, or ask when or where you'll be playing again. Maybe the conversation ends with a handshake. A groupie sees the public figure and assumes that figure is there FOR them. Your performance is a direct conversation with them, and, as such, you are involved in an intimate conversation with them. These folks with hug you, come up on stage to talk about how cool that last song was. They'll tell you their life story as you're coming out of the restroom in between sets. I guess my definition of groupie has less to do with any romantic stuff and more about the presumption of intimacy based on a false premise.

Groupies? Well, look at it this way... A couple of months ago I was playing guitar in an acoustic session in a pub. A 20-something gal plops down drunkenly on the chair next to me and exclaims that she just loves guitar players; all her boyfriends have been guitar players. From way across the pub my wife's radar went ballistic. She was next to me in an instant and, dripping with sweetness, told the young lady she, too, liked guitar players and that was why she married this one.