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    This is one of the saddest times in my life. My father died on Friday night, in his sleep. He was supposed to come to us, to me and my wife, for dinner. We hadn't set an exact time and I was beginning to wonder why he hadn't called me about it. That's when one of our friends called...

    The doctor's guess (so far) is that it was a cardiac arrest. There was no sign that he had been in any pain. He was just lying in his bed and looked like he was sleeping according to those who saw him. They had already taken him away when I arrived, but I will go and see him one last time today or maybe tomorrow.

    What's really terrible is that my mother is in the Philipines. She had to go to do some work. She won't be back until Tuesday and I feel so sorry for her. We've talked on the phone a few times and for the most part she just cries.

    As some of you may know, there have been many times when it's been close. During the past 15 years my father had a bad heart. I guess in a way as a close relative it hardens you. You think "Ah, but he'll get through this one too, he's died before". It wasn't until I got as far as to his bedroom that I understood that this time it was for real, and that's when I broke down and cried too.

    He was a good man and a very warm father. He worked very much when I was little but he was very good at being at home when he was home, if you understand what I mean. I guess that's what they call quality time. He always supported my interest in music. In fact, he was the one who got me interested in jazz. Although he didn't play anything himself he opened my ears to improvised music being the bebop freak he was.

    He was also a loyal friend. I took it upon me to call his closest friends to deliver the sad news and it made me realize just how many really close friends he had. People who loved him deeply and who had very beautiful memories of him. I hope my mother talks a lot to them when she comes home, it will ease the pain somewhat.

    Maybe he worked too much. But then again, he worked with things he loved. Two years ago he retired but still kept a pretty busy schedule. In many ways he died a good death. No pain, in the middle of everything. Too bad he was alone when it happened, but then again, none of us knew it was coming. Which is also a blessing of sorts, at least for him.
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  • #2
    Hey, Terje, my prayers are with you & your family.

    He died fast. Sounds like his life was good and he was loved.

    I hope for as good when I go.

    Blessed be.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Danocoustic
      Hey, Terje, my prayers are with you & your family.

      He died fast. Sounds like his life was good and he was loved.

      I hope for as good when I go.

      Blessed be.


      I'm awfully sorry to hear this Terje. My thoughts are with you and your family.
      Thanks, and rock on!

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      • #4
        keep strong my man... prayers go out to you and your family
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        • #5
          I'm truly sorry to hear that Terje.
          My thoughts are with you tonight.

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          • #6
            Terje, so sorry to hear My thoughts are with you and your family. Sounds like he lived a good life and was loved by many--hopefully it adds comfort during this difficult time.

            Peace-
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            • #7
              Terje, my sincerest condolences. I hope you and you family are working through this trying time as best you can. Remember him as the father he was, and the good man that you knew. Take heart in the fact that he went in his sleep, painlessly, and did not suffer in his last moments. Be strong, my friend!
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              • #8
                Too sad, Terje. I'm really sorry to hear about your father. I'm glad you were close, though, and had each other to love. My best to your family.
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                • #9
                  Terje,
                  My deepest condolences on your loss. I know that the pain runs deep, but I hope you and your family will feel better soon so that you can look back on his life and smile rather than cry with the hurt of your loss.
                  I just lost my older sister to pneumonia last weekend, so my family is dealing with something similar. I have no words to comfort you in the same way that no one's words can comfort me right now.
                  Again, my sincerest sypathies with you and yours.

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                  • #10
                    I am saddened by your loss Terje. My prayers go out to you and yours. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, and you are a good man.

                    Godspeed.

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                    • #11
                      Dear Terje,

                      Please look after yourself and you have my condolences. I understand your grief and sympathise with the loss of your Father, may he rest in peace.

                      kind regards,
                      Torq
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                      • #12
                        Sorry to hear it Terje. Death of a family member, especially a parent, is always tough to deal with.

                        God be with you.
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                        • #13
                          I feel a little better now. Part of that is all your support. Thanks people, it warms my heart.

                          Also we went to the morgue to see him. He really did look very peaceful. I've worked with enough dead people in old peoples homes to know what part of that peaceful look you can fake. It's not so much actually.

                          Most of the time the jaw will drop open. There might be other things too. If you're not there when it happens you can't do much about it.

                          This wasn't fake. He looked exactly like he was sleeping and I had to stop myself from shaking him to wake him up. Only when I touched him did he feel like he was dead, the stiffness and the cold.

                          I'm not sure how much this will help my mom tomorrow when she gets to see him but... let's hope.
                          <div class="signaturecontainer">Terje Larsson<br />
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                          <font size="0"><font color="red">inbox is full, send e-mail instead</font></font><br />
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                          Hey, wanna look at <font color="red">my comics</font>? Come here then <a href="http://terjelarssonserier.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">http://terjelarssonserier.blogspot.com/</a><br />
                          <br />
                          Ah, sorry, it's all in swedish, but you can always <i>look</i>!<br />
                          <br />
                          You can also check out my crazy friend Dan's crazy website where he'll teach you to master the guitar in 8 minutes (or days... or whatever). <br />
                          <br />
                          <a href="http://spytunes.co.uk/" target="_blank">http://spytunes.co.uk/</a></div>

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                          • #14
                            I'm very sorry, Terje. Seems like he had a fairly decent death, though. I hope this won't be too hard for you and your family.

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                            • #15
                              Terje my friend, I'm sorry for your loss. It's difficult, but life goes on, and you have friends all over the world. Hang in there.
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