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  • What factors led you to getting married?

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    Was it really love? Money? Companionship? Social status? Societal expectations? Something else?

    Are you still with your first spouse (male or female)?

    If you had a subsequent spouse(s), did you choose differently the next time around? In other words, you did not want to repeat the same mistakes.
    Originally posted by MrKnobs
    God, that's beautiful man! And they say romance is dead!

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    • #3
      I got married very late in life. September 5th 2009. I was 47, my wife was almost 51 years old. We had lived together for 15 years. She ended up loosing her job at the place she was work for almost 10 years.

      I asked my HR if I could put my gf on my health insurance and they said, you can only put a spouse on your health insurance. I told her is she wanted health insurance and she had no other plans, she could be a real wife with paper work and all.

      I told her is she didn't make a big deal about the whole thing, I'm in. We invited a few friends and family to the big event.

      My wife was married once before back in the late 70's. It was a nice 6 month run, I guess (not really). She said she would never do it again, I guess that was a lie.

      She told me many times before I wish I knew you back then. I told her I was in junior high, don't be a creep cougar. I love my wife, and she's a great gal. She does all my laundry too, with out being asked. Folds the stuff up like it was when if came out of the store. She does drive me nuts, cause, she needs friends. The older she gets the less friends she has or the less she seems to have in common with people she knows. Me; I could play guitar for about 10 hours a day. ok maybe 9. One thing good is she does have one older sister she likes to get together with.

      I like a lot of quiet "me" time.

      Today the wife and I hit some Mexican joint in town for lunch, plus it was our tenants birthday and we got together for her birthday. Cake and I gave the tenant a 12 pack of beer. the wrapper said "Nothing says Happy Birthday like a good Beer buzz, Happy Birthday Kris."


      My wife was dirt poor when I met her. I once took her to the movies and asked her if she wanted something from the concession, she was like wow, you must be rich or something. Not really, but get what you want.




















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      • #4
        Married for love. Both in our 30's. Will have been married 32 years next month.
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        • #5
          Back in the summer of 1976, I was casually dating three different gals. It was a great summer. In late August, I went on vacation, and discovered that, of the three, I really missed only one. I cut my vacation short, and dashed home to see her again.

          There were times when I wondered if I'd made the right choice, but, really, the choice was made for me. We finally got married in 1980, and we're still together.
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          • #6
            She wouldn't leave me alone. I surrendered, spent and helpless.
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            • #7
              [QUOTE=spacecommando;n32052351]She wouldn't leave me alone. I surrendered, spent and helpless.[/QUOTE
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              • #8
                We'd already bought a house together, so WTF.
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                • #9
                  Originally posted by TubeAddict View Post
                  We'd already bought a house together, so WTF.
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by TubeAddict View Post
                    We'd already bought a house together, so WTF.
                    Good a reason as any.
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by isaac42 View Post
                      Back in the summer of 1976, I was casually dating three different gals. It was a great summer. In late August, I went on vacation, and discovered that, of the three, I really missed only one. I cut my vacation short, and dashed home to see her again.

                      There were times when I wondered if I'd made the right choice, but, really, the choice was made for me. We finally got married in 1980, and we're still together.
                      I had some serious doubts and I was trying to figure out if I wanted to break up with her. The next thing I knew we were engaged. Funny how some choices make themselves.
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                      • #12
                        Which time? First was for great sex. Best ever. Second because I got her pregnant. Big mistake, both the marriage and The pregnancy. Most recent (18 years ago) because I was stupid I guess.

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                        • #13
                          The first one I married on the rebound after being jilted by another woman I went with for a while. I was going through a lot of changes at the time. . New job. Got rid of all my old friends who were bringing me down with their lifestyle, etc. I was getting serious and purposeful about life and they were not. Anyway, after a brief courtship, I married this woman. We were both too immature and idealistic to be married at the time. We met at work. She was model material and she knew it. We were married 6 years. It was great when it was good and bad when it was bad. I was the one looking to build a better life. She thought it should be handed to her. At the end, I had enough and called it quits. It was the normal ugly divorce, going to court all the time, but somehow I lived through it.

                          For the second marriage, I chose more wisely. I was looking for a woman that has an established career and was financially secure. I also met her at work, but at a different company. We went out for 10 years and were married for 9 years after that. At the end we drifted apart and I found another love interest. That divorce was easier and I was used to dealing with the tactics of opposing counsel. We had a fair and equitable financial settlement, and parted company.

                          Would I marry again? I can't imagine it. Neither myself nor my current GF of 10 years are interested in it. Plus we have very different lifestyles, as we do not live together. After all the legal problems I've been through with two divorces, there's not a whole lot that can convince me that marriage is a good enough thing to take legal risks on again. Still, they say never say never. Who knows. . . .with the right woman with significant financial holdings, it just may cause me to rethink the institution of marriage.
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                          Originally posted by MrKnobs
                          God, that's beautiful man! And they say romance is dead!

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                          • #14
                            Lived with someone for 13 years. Caught her cheating on me with my bassist / best friend during year 2, broke up for a bit, tried to put it back together. Some things you can't unbreak. I felt bad for her (she was trying really hard to make it up to me), but I added a 2nd woman on the side which lasted 11 years, surprisingly stable.

                            But when I added a 3rd woman, (clothes at all three houses), it was too much.

                            After 6 months of that I broke up with all three.

                            I started seeing two young women, I picked one and married her. One was crazy and suicidal (but intensely sexual), the other was not, an easy decision after the lust wore off.

                            So, only one marriage and hopefully that's the end of it.

                            The first woman died a couple of years back, God rest her restless soul.

                            Terry D.
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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by MrKnobs View Post
                              Lived with someone for 13 years. Caught her cheating on me with my bassist / best friend during year 2, broke up for a bit, tried to put it back together. Some things you can't unbreak. I felt bad for her (she was trying really hard to make it up to me), but I added a 2nd woman on the side which lasted 11 years, surprisingly stable.

                              But when I added a 3rd woman, (clothes at all three houses), it was too much.

                              After 6 months of that I broke up with all three.

                              I started seeing two young women, I picked one and married her. One was crazy and suicidal (but intensely sexual), the other was not, an easy decision after the lust wore off.

                              So, only one marriage and hopefully that's the end of it.

                              The first woman died a couple of years back, God rest her restless soul.

                              Terry D.


                              Ya think


                              There ya go.


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