Members New Trail Posted October 17, 2012 Members Share Posted October 17, 2012 First off, I'm no prude and I'm not above using adult words and occasional adult and sexual humor at band practices, but when is it too much? We have one guy who will sing dirty lyrics on every song he sings (at rehearsal), continually makes sexually rude comments, jokes, etc. Of course everybody laughs (me too), then other people start and it's a steamroller type thing. We DO get things done despite all the joking around, but to me it gets to be too much after a (very short) while. Anyone else? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chevybusa Posted October 17, 2012 Members Share Posted October 17, 2012 If it's just a bunch of guys and no one is offended then it's no big deal, but if you have a female member OR this guy ever pulls that {censored} in public it's just a big {censored}ing no-no, to say the least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Nijyo Posted October 17, 2012 Members Share Posted October 17, 2012 Everyone has a different limit. In a private setting, mine is when/if it becomes mean spirited. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mutha Goose Posted October 17, 2012 Members Share Posted October 17, 2012 What about it gets to be too much for you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SpaceNorman Posted October 17, 2012 Members Share Posted October 17, 2012 I've had a couple of bandmates over the years who were like this. The sex part of the equation didn't bug me all that much (as long strictly amongst the guys ... and not behavior that carries over into public). After 4 years of barracks life, 4+ years of college roommates and 15+ years of 3 nights a week adult league hockey lockerrooms - foul language and dirty jokes don't phase me in the least. If the bandmate in question is anything like the couple of guys that I've run into - what would bug me is that the guys spent all their energy looking to make the jokes work when everybody else around them were trying to "get stuff done". I'm all for clowning around ... but found the constant clowning to be a distraction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RoadRanger Posted October 17, 2012 Members Share Posted October 17, 2012 Guys that work that hard at appearing to be into women really ought to be honest with themselves... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nobodyknows Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 Lol - this - ^^^^^^^^ How true.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members wades_keys Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 A few I've heard over the years: To the tune of "Panama": "Padded bra. Padded bra" To the tune of "Rocky Top": "Floppy cock, you'll always be - Hung between my knees. Good ole floppy cock. Hung between my knees. Hung between my knees" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members wesg Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 It's best doing this stuff in an originals group. Everybody chuckling except the songwriter. If I could somehow capture "death stare rays" and turn them into electricity, we could stop digging up the Alberta tar sands. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Chicken Monkey Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 I'm not easily offended, but it's annoying if the jokes are a manifestation of a deep hatred for women, and it's a deal breaker when any {censored}ing around, obscene or otherwise, gets in the way of getting the job done at rehearsal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members wades_keys Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 Originally Posted by wesg It's best doing this stuff in an originals group. Everybody chuckling except the songwriter. If I could somehow capture "death stare rays" and turn them into electricity, we could stop digging up the Alberta tar sands. OMG that's so true. I know a guy that used to CONSTANTLY mock the tunes his bandleader was writing. Death rays....LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members GuitarPlayerFL Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 Originally Posted by RoadRanger Guys that work that hard at appearing to be into women really ought to be honest with themselves... +1. My FIRST reaction.He's gay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members benzem Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 Ernie (RIP) would embarass us all with his "every girls crazy 'bout a well hung man" Good singer, tho. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members wades_keys Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 Originally Posted by GuitarPlayerFL +1. My FIRST reaction.He's gay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MusicalSchizo Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 I think it can be funny but can easily get old. One of my old bands used to do a funky version of "Escape (The Pi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mstreck Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 Originally Posted by Chicken Monkey it's a deal breaker when any fucking around, obscene or otherwise, gets in the way of getting the job done at rehearsal. ^this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members FitchFY Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 What an odd thread... doesn't each group of friends share their own limit on humor? I'd say it's "too much" when it starts bothering you or someone else. My cover band singer gets very sexually vocal when he's feeling the alkiehol. Big part of why the band is done in December right there. In my original band, we have a rather bawdy young female singer. My guitarist is the one who is very uncomfortable with it, so we said "hey, let's tone down the sexual stuff." Problem solved. Just, ya know, talk to your band mates, dude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members FitchFY Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 Originally Posted by wesg It's best doing this stuff in an originals group. Everybody chuckling except the songwriter. If I could somehow capture "death stare rays" and turn them into electricity, we could stop digging up the Alberta tar sands. Ahhh, yes, so true! I was in a band where the singer would always swap around words on covers, and we all laughed. But when we did it to an original, you could see it bothered him. Now THAT'S a double standard. Side note: I totally still do it to him when we hang out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members jeff42 Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 usually the humor gets dirty and dark when we have a long drive home from a gig. The hypothetical stories start and they just end up going goofy dirty places. It keeps us awake and laughing like fools. But onstage both bands are pretty tame. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members guitarguy19 Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 During the tracks we don' really fuck around...at rehearsal or gigs. Sometimes our singer will throw a lyric in if it's related to the room...on F U this past weekend we dedicated it and sang fuck you to the Yankees...But after the song ends, anything goes. We blurt out things (to each other) that would probably make even some of you guys blush Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Lee Knight Posted October 18, 2012 Moderators Share Posted October 18, 2012 It's like anything. "You check out the game last night?" etc. And then we get on with the task at hand. But what I've seen happen with moron types who are insecure, etc, is they use the supposed "taboo" nature of their humor to discredit anyone saying, "Let's get one with it". They try to make that person look like a prude. When, as SpaceNormy says, it isn't shocking, it's just a waste of time after a certain point. Guys that don't get the natural rhythm of work, let off steam, work some more, then some more, now let off steam. They just want to let off steam without building any up. That's a waste of time and I got no time for it. I love to laugh. And even more, I love to get stuff done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members timrocker Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 A couple of bands ago, I worked with a drummer whose MO was to say the crudest thing he could think of, in any kind of company and nearly at random, and then guffaw uproariously at his own outrageousness. I don't miss him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 3shiftgtr Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 There's a time for it. Just don't let it get in the way. Lee Knight gets it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nchangin Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 Sounds like a complete waste of practice time to me, if he wants to sing dirty tell him to get a karaoke machine and have at it. Practice makes permanent = what you do in practice you do live. So if you don't mind giving a pervert a chance to act like a dirty wierd al live then you will be fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members EightString Posted October 18, 2012 Members Share Posted October 18, 2012 I'm not offended by much, but it can get tiresome if you have that one bandmate who turns EVERYTHING into a dirty reference. I outgrew that junior high shit in, well, junior high. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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