Hi, I wanted to get feedbacks from other musicians about a band issue I've been having.
I recently had a band meeting with a band I am involved with.. basically the leader wanted to gauge where everyone was at in terms of commitment. He wanted us to be very frank about it too. I basically told him that right now I am doing this because it's fun, and I understand that he is really pushing for the band to "make it" , and I see this as an investment for something better to come in the future. But I also told him that we are getting paid little considering how much time we spend on rehearsal/individual preparation, and I can't see myself doing this 2-3 years from now on if things don't improve.
At that point the bandleader got really annoyed at me, and started telling me that I was being negative, and my thoughts shouldn't even go there. His point was that things have already improved a lot(which it did) and I don't have any reason to think things won't go anywhere in the future. He said that kind of thinking affects the overall vibe and it's seriously affecting his ability to work with me.
As far as I am concerned, I see this as having different perspective and outlook in life. Maybe this is my background in Eastern Philosophy speaking, but I try not to get too attached to particular outcome whenever I get involved in things. I understand and accept all outcome, including things not working out as I expected. As far as I am concerned,, life as a musician, and life in general is very transient..bands and band members come and go. Besides, even the best musicians are known to have backup plans if their music careers/band didn't work out. I don' think it's there is anything wrong with that.
On the other hand my bandleader comes from "If you believe hard enough and work hard for it, you will get there" school of thought. For him this is his calling and there is no other way. I definitely respect his relentless conviction and the work he puts into it... But it kind of irks me that he wants everyone to feel the same way about the band. I've done my share of booking and getting opportunities for the band, and I've definitely given to this band way more than I would have for other bands. So i really don't know what to say or do when the bandleader tells me that how I think is affecting the vibe. It's not like I am counting on the band to not succeed.
My question is how important is it for a band to be same page when it comes to things like this? I am starting to think maybe I am holding the band back and maybe i am not doing the band justice because I don't share that kind of conviction(but then again I don't know who would be willing to commit as much as any of the band member is right now considering how little we get paid for the amount of work we do).
I've worked with a lot of bands and frankly I don't mind different perspective/attitude as long as we are working towards common goal. Everything kind of starts with "let's try it and see where it goes",and you can't make people believe in it...there is always uncertainty IMO that kind of conviction only comes in time.