the part of who you are takes a back seat when your kid is born. or should, anyway. nothing should be more important than your child.
OK, what I'm saying is just my personal experience and I don't expect everyone to agree. If personal interests are allowed to ride in the back seat and don't have to be given up altogether, it can be a workable plan. But a person who sacrifices who they are just to do the right thing will eventually face resentment. Pretending it's alright doesn't last. I'm a little gunshy of people telling me what I need to be doing or setting limits on me. The guy's already talking about hiding something. That's a BS way to live. Once that starts, there is no end to it. Some people rationalize it. I won't stand for it.